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Another First Date

So, I went on another first date today.  It was okay.  I don't think we had sparks.  But, it is what it is.

I really want to meet someone to date OUTSIDE of the online dating thing.  It's really weird because I go on dates from the online dating world, and during the dates I just think to myself... Where would I find this girl in the real world.  I mean... Everyone I know is already married.  They are all la-te-da with someone and have found the love of their life somewhere.  Annnnnnnd then there's me.  Still just going out to events and things alone.

I sat and did work at Starbucks tonight for 2 hours.

Last night I went out to get a pumpkin beer up the street after the gym.  It's just funny because at the gym, there were no women at all, all dudes.  And then at the bar, there were pretty much ALL couples, married ones.

So, I just kind of laugh and think... Where do single women hide in real life outside of dating sites?

Maybe they just don't go out in public or something.  I have no clue.

So, anyways, I might try finding a regular open mic, and karaoke place.  And then maybe as well do a meetup event or something.

In other news I've kind of stopped posting stuff on Facebook after that one post had a lot of likes and shares.  I think it's cool.  I don't think I can top that.  Also, it's just been nice to not be posting on there.

I'm going to post a lot more on here just because people can't leave annoying comments on my blog posts.  I have that disabled.

So, I write what I want, and that's that.  Also, I can write more on here than on Facebook.

Hmmm, well anyway, so yeah I'm going to try and search out new places where single women my age might actually hang out in real life.

I think the trick is that it has to be recurring.  Like, so you see the same person over and over again week after week.  If you only go out to a bar and see them once, that's no good.  Because there's nothing to make it stick.  Unless you swap numbers and there's a LOT of mutual attraction.

But if it's something like going to karaoke week after week at the same place and she's there every week, and I'm there every week... And then we see one another, and don't think much of it, and don't even talk to each other until like the 4th time we both are there, and then maybe we become friends and then after friends we start to kind of find a romantic connection.  That would be nice to find.

So, I just need to find weekly things that are in the real world and not online where it's something week after week where we see one another over and over again.  I mean, I see the same people over and over again, but all of those people are already married... or whatever.

Honestly if you ask me, I think there should be a service where you sign up for it... And then you show up, and they just match you with someone, and they operate on each one of your brains to make you both fall in love.  That would just make things SOOO much easier.  Like they implant some little love device that keeps you in love with each other.  Take all this guesswork out of finding "the one".

It would be nice to go to more events with more single people my age... I mean, I go out to these events but every time I strike up a conversation eventually she'll drop those dreaded words in some kind of response.  Like, I'll say I play guitar and then she'll be like... "Oh!  Well, my significant other also plays guitar blah blah blah...".

It's always the same.

They really need to make a single people festival where you just show up and mix and mingle and drink and enjoy food trucks and what not.  And then you just go around with a card that has green on one side and red on the other, and you just talk to people and then at any point you can hold up your card, green means you're interested, red means you want to end the conversation and talk to someone new.

Anyways, so, yeah, everyone else has found someone special.  I'm still just single as can be.  That's kind of the reason why I'm not really going on Facebook at the moment... everyone is all posting about weddings they are going to or whatever... So, I'm just like... Eh.  I don't really want to know all that crap.  Good for them I guess.  But it just makes me feel like crap because it reminds me how I'm still single and all these other people out there have found someone special.  Oh well.  Just have to keep hoping and waiting...

I guess she's out there somewhere...