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Lock and Key Event (Orlando Bloom Outfit Is A Hit)

Last night... I did not meet the girl I will marry.

Or who knows, heck, maybe I did but don't know it yet, or maybe she walked right by me outside on the sidewalk below and I had no idea.  It's possible.  She could have been at the place next door sitting with family or friends or a third or fifth wheel to two other married people, wondering if she'll ever get married one day herself.  Meanwhile both of us have no clue just how close we were to meeting one another.

As of right now... I have no future wedding plans.  We'll leave it at that.

Instead... I mean, it was entertaining at least.  Also I learned few things...

For one, I'm not too bad off on the dating game game thing.  I mean... I did draw some interest.  So maybe I need to check my insecurities and worries as the door and let myself get a little confident.  Maybe not overly confident because no one likes a cocky person, but hey... I'm not too bad looking when  I get all dressed up, and I'm pretty funny and interesting.  Being able to pull out someone's phone and show them my music on their Spotify app is a crowd pleaser for sure.  And if that fails, there's always, I'm writing a book.  And if that doesn't draw interest the Beverly Hills trust fund story is another card available, which I didn't mention last night.

I learned that people like things that are already made.  Not... I'm going to be doing this, or making this.  People like to hear completed past accomplishments and not... Future accomplishments in the works.

Seriously though, tonight there was a lot of hair flipping happening.  That Yale course is SPOT on.  Women really do flip their hair when they are interested.  I bet they have no idea they are even doing it.  They kind of sit up, or stand up a little more and arch their backs... It's crazy weird how true it is.

And when they aren't interested... They just kind of curl inwards and look away and avoid eye contact.  Actually... That didn't happen tonight at all.

Funny how far a teeth stain removing/whitening... a haircut... a beard trim... and replicating Orlando Bloom's outfit will take you.

So, I left work at 5.  I came home and catered to the cats.  Then I put on my Orlando Bloom outfit...  I fought the traffic and tried to find street parking, instead I just paid 20 bucks for parking instead.

I love street parking.  It's like an accomplishment almost.  If you can find it... You feel like... You won at the car parking downtown game.  If you can't though?  It's like... Okay, I guess I'll park in a lot and just pay the 20 bucks.  I usually find a spot.  Last night I ALMOST had a spot but I was forced to pass it on the first go around as the traffic was in too much of a steady flow and by the time I circled back around, someone was just paralleling into it.

So... When I first arrived it was a sausage-fest and a half.  We sat around twiddling our thumbs just wondering if we'd been had.  One guy asked "So, do you think any women are going to show up at all?".  We were assured by the event coordinators that there were indeed a fair number for each sex.

Eventually one by one the girls shuffled in, very much so fashionably late.

All the guys received keys and all the girls received locks.

Immediately off the bat...

Things were a little tense.

There were two girls present that I'd been on dates with previously from the dating site.  Lucky for me... They were both cool about it.  It was just one of those.... We went on a date... It kind of was in that... "I'm not sure" phase... and never got past that.

The idea of running into people again that you basically think you will never see again... It just fascinates me.  It's strange.  We think that we'll never see someone again..  So we kind of do this thing where we're just like "Well, best of luck to you!".

And that's that.  Best of luck... Like... See ya.  Wouldn't wanna be ya.  Peace out cub scout... You're forever gone from my life...

Until you walk into a room and there they are again.  Oh.  Hi.  Soooooooo.

"About that whole best of luck peace out cub scout later alligator thing we said."
"Yeah.  About that..."
"Soooo..."
"SOOOO...."
"What have you been up to?"
"Oh nothing.  Just stuff.  What about you?"
"Yeah.  Same.  Stuff."

Anyways... People locked and keyed.  A couple of people did find matches.  So each time you find a match you then get a raffle ticket.  The more raffle tickets you have the better chance you have of winning.  I found out that this guy named Greg had gone to at least 3 or 4 other lock and key events and he was just going around to EVERYONE not even talking, just locking and keying until he got a match.  They apparently are going to ban him from signing up for the event as he keeps winning the raffle.  And the point of the event is to meet and talk and not just win prizes.

Well, I actually left and went and got some food after the event was over with two of the other lock and key people.  One of them was indeed a previous dating site person.  We friended up on Facebook.  I also friended up with her friend.  But I think the keyword is friends.  I just wasn't feeling a super romantic vibe.  But I always welcome more friends in my life!

We ate and had another drink at this next place.  They had to catch a train.  I decided to go back in to sip on some more water to let the beer wear off before driving.

While I was sipping on some water, another girl started up a conversation with me.  We chatted for a while...

Her boyfriend finally came over.  We were introduced.  The three of us started chatting.  Nice people.

I feel as though I'm an expert at third wheeling couples these days.  This happened last weekend at the Longwood Garden's Wine and Jazz Festival.  The two people I met just kind of sucked me in.

It's not a bad thing... I mean, so ideally, in a perfect world, if you're single you get dressed up, and you go out... and you start talking to someone of the opposite sex that is single.

I mean... This isn't an ideal world.  So... If I meet a couple and then they have a friend that I become friends with, and then that friend has a friend that was dating some guy for a few years and they broke up, and then that friend introduced me to the girl that broke up with her previous boyfriend... and then we end up hitting it off... Sometimes things go like that!

The best way to meet someone... Is to meet lots of people.  Just like the best way, as Greg apparently figured out at the lock and key event, to win the raffle... Is to have a lot of raffle tickets by turning in as many matched locks as he could.

If getting married is like winning the lottery, and each lottery ticket is meeting a new person, even if they are currently in a relationship or married... You can increase your chances by buying lots of lottery tickets, or meeting lots of people.  Not all relationships work out.  Not all marriages work out.  People that are in relationships or married have friends that are single.  Making new friends could lead to potential dates.  People are more likely to date a friend because they trust that person and know that person and there is less pressure.

Well anyways there you have it.  Key take away from the night was... Dress like a celebrity!  My next night out... I'm going to do some Google searching for celebrity fashion and then I'm going to do some shopping.

It's not only fun, it's a confidence booster.  And then the whole night you know who you are trying to be.  You're trying to become and act like that celebrity.  You're trying to get into character in your mind and carry yourself how that celebrity might carry themselves.  You can pretend that you not only look like a million bucks, you also have a million bucks.  Because people are attracted to rich confidence.