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Just Say So

So, the other night I went on a first date with someone... She met me for a first date... We got a beer.  Then when it came time to either close out the tab, or have a second one... She was interested in having a second one.

SO, we had a second beer.  We chatted for over 2 hours.

So, I was texting her after we met up and she was responding.  Then out of the blue I get a screen cap of our text exchange back and forth and there's a caption with that screen capture from the phone texting that says "This is a guy I recently went on a date with, I was hoping he would just stop responding."

She obviously meant to send it to a friend.  But she sent it to me on accident.

It's just another in a string of first dates I've been on recently.  The one before that just stopped responding after the date without any explanation.

But I thought that if you weren't interested and you even wanted me to stop responding... Why not just say that?

Why not just say you aren't interested.  Why did you even have the second beer on the first date and stay and chat?

I don't get it.  It just makes no sense to me.  If you weren't interested even from the moment we met in person, just say it then, don't even have a beer let alone two beers, let alone respond to me after the first date...

It just feels like it's sending the wrong signal.  Like you're leading me on.

If you aren't interested, just say so.  But don't make it seem like you're interested while you hope I stop texting you.

How am I supposed to know that?

At this point in dating... It's just so hopeless.

I mean, it's such an uphill battle.  It's impossible.  Like I sad in my previous post, I just don't think dating in this area is ever going to work.  Basically I'll just go about my life until I move somewhere completely new.  I think the move is going to have to be at least 500+ miles to a completely different area.  I don't know what it is about the dating prospects around this area, but it's just hard to date around this area.

I mean, all I really ask for is that she's honest and genuine.

I don't care if you don't have feelings for me... Just say that though.  Don't kind of keep taking to me, or kind of go for the second beer.  If you aren't interested, just say so, so that I can try with the next person and stop wasting time with you.

It just makes no sense.  I want a relationship... I want someone who is genuinely interested and I keep getting involved with women who just lead me on and drag my heart around.  I guess I just don't understand the point of that?  Why lead a guy on?  What's the point?  If you know that eventually you don't want it to go al the way to marriage, why even spend any effort in any way involved with the guy?

What's the point?  It's just mean.

I don't know.  It just makes no sense to me.  You either date someone and you have interest, or you just tell the person you aren't interested and you walk away.  But to be not interested, but to still kind of be interacting with the person still... I guess I just don't get why?

I know I'll meet her once I finally make a big move, that's what a lot of people have told me.  That I have to basically sell my house, and move somewhere brand new that is a brand new area that I've never lived in before.  I've had a lot of people tell me that.  So, that's the plan.  Move somewhere new new in a completely different area where the people are totally different and the culture and atmosphere is totally different.  And that's when I'll meet her.

I'm just looking for that one... That one genuine heart who truly wants a relationship and who is truly genuinely interested.  I haven't found it yet, but I just have to keep hoping that it is out there and that a genuine honest person is out there who wants the whole marriage deal and all that stuff.  For right now, it's just been nothing but frustration and heart ache always getting my hopes up and liking women who don't end up having mutual feelings back.