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Okay Then

SO, my college girlfriend, who friended me on Facebook after my mom died decided to unfriend me today.

Why?  She didn't like that she wasn't the one I fell in love with the most so far in life.  She was upset that I status updated that I fell in love with this other girl...

But guess what?  She's married, to another guy, and has a kid with him.

I'm just like... REALLY?  Okay then.

I mean, at the time, I DID love her.  But then I met this other girl... And then what I thought was love then... Was like amplified for this other girl.

But it's like, what do you care?  You're married!  You have a kid!  I shouldn't even be a blink in your mind.  I shouldn't even cross your mind!  You HAVE a guy.  I should be NOTHING to you.  HE should be the one you care about.

But instead, she was commenting and liking my statuses left and right.

It's just stupid.  I mean, YES, I DID love you at the time... But that was before I met someone else that just made me go, WHOA... WHAT IS THIS FEELING!?!?!

Yes, it didn't work out... and anyways she's all about this other guy as far as I know.  So it doesn't matter anyways.

But the thing is you can't control what level of feelings turn on and off and for which person they turn on and off for.  That's not something you can choose.  You can't actively decide WHO to fall for.  It's not a choice.

Anyways...

I mean, and who knows, maybe I'll meet yet another girl further down the road that will make me say that to the last girl that made me feel that way.

But it just kind of annoys me because not only is she married and has a kid... But she is offended that I wasn't like posting statuses about her being the love of my life.

That's just like... I mean, WHO CARES about me or what I think.  I don't get that.  She shouldn't even give a crap about me because she met someone else.  That's how it's supposed to work.  You give all your crap for him... Not me.

If she were still single, yes, I could understand that.  But like what... Is she sitting there in the middle of the night reading my Facebook with her husband there beside her in bed?  That's just creepy if you ask me.  If I were married to a girl and she were sitting there commenting on her ex-boyfriend's status updates and then sending him a personal message about how she was upset that she wasn't the love of his life...

I'd just be like what the????!?!?!

Everyone only needs one person to be the love of there life.  SO, once someone ties the knot, they shouldn't care if anyone they dated previously could care less about them.  This isn't like... Collect as many loves as you can and get lots of people to tell you that you were the love of their life.  That's not how it works.  You find a love, and then no one else should matter.  No one else you've ever dated or have been with should matter once you are with someone and it's so serious that you decided to get married.

That's how it works.

I mean, hey if you want to be friends with exes... That's fine, but if they then say that you aren't the person they fell in love with the hardest so far in life... You shouldn't be upset by that.  You should just be like... Whatever, I don't care because I've got someone special.  And then you turn to your significant other and kiss them and say.... "THIS is the love of my life, and I don't care about any of the loves I've been with previously or what their feelings for me were in any capacity."

That's how it works.  Once you get someone special, anything you've previously been with can say pretty much anything about how they felt or think or even currently feel and you don't give a hoot because you're with someone that IS special.

And that's the only person who matters anymore.

The day I get married, I'll just be like THIS is the girl that matters most.

I won't be like... I hope I still matter to my ex... And then roll over and kiss the girl I'm currently with.  That's just creepy.

Leave a Facebook comment on exes status, send personal Facebook message to ex... put phone down and go over to current love and kiss them.

Seriously.  That's just creepy.

When you decide you don't want to be with someone... You're not allowed to still be offended if they aren't all like still in love with you.

That's how it works.  But anyways she unfriended me so it doesn't matter.

I just hope whoever I marry doesn't kiss me right after she wishes her exe had loved her in college.

As she turns to me on the couch one night while we're watching TV and says to me, "I'm married to you... But I'm upset that my ex didn't think of me as the love of his life in college."

I'd just look at her and be like... "Umm...What?"