Okay, so tonight I was at the gym, and I was working out... And I'm just thinking how I need to come up with a game plan to end up somewhere new.
I've definitely decided that, not even talking about the love of my life, or getting married... Just talking about dating a girl in general...
She doesn't live in this area. Whoever she is... She just doesn't. Because if she did live in this area, I would have met her by now and we'd already be dating, or more... Married... Who knows.
SO... My game plan is to try a new area. Which area? I'm not sure. Maybe Seattle, or Phoenix... Or somewhere in between.
What's my game plan then? Okay, I've been brainstorming a little since the gym.
Here's what I've got so far.
I'm ditching 99 percent of the "fun" events I was going to. They cost money, and take time. And wouldn't help me in moving somewhere new. I need all the resources I can get to move.
It's not just moving though, it's about finding an "excuse" to move. SO, that excuse is a new job.
But, since my work place is significantly different than most workplaces are... I need to get used to what it will be like out there in the workplace world.
It's a bit like go fish. You draw a card and have no idea what it's going to be. But you have to figure out how to use it.
I have no idea how things will be in a new city, or a new job, or a new living space.
It's all a gamble. But, what I do know is... She doesn't live in the Philly area. I know that hands down.
And if I stay here, I'll just end up old and alone.
Maybe I'll try somewhere in Colorado... Or, who knows! I don't know.
But I need to get used to working more. SO, I'm going to work more. I'm sure my employer will like it a lot. What they don't know is that it's going to be relatively short lived. But it' s a win win, I get used to how things are out there in corporate America... And they get extra work out of me.
Next up, I'm staying in a lot. I need to cut down my budget and gear resources and money towards an eventual move.
Right now, I'm stuck in this house until Feb of 2018. There's no mortgage on this house, so when I sell it... I have capital gains tax. My mom's estate sold me the house for a dollar. So, basically, I'm paying capital gains on the entire value of the house. Apparently the short term rate is like 40 percent. 40 percent of this house is... a lot. I'm not willing to lose that money to taxes.
Now, this house does need some work... I need to get my HGTV on and really gear my resources towards fixing things up. That way when I hit next year, I can sell it for a pretty penny, instead of just a penny.
That way, wherever I move to, I have enough money to just buy another house in cash. It will be easier not having to deal with a mortgage. And when I go to make an offer, I can just say... I want this house at this price... it's an all cash deal. As is. Take it or leave it. You let me know and I write the check.
A cash deal is easier because you don't have to wait to find out if the buyer will be approved for a mortgage.
I just walk up to the door and say... Are you in? Or are you out? If not, I'm going to the next house.
They know the deal can close whenever I want it to close. I don't have to wait for "settlement" or whatever.
It's my terms and that's how it goes. Either I buy your house right now as is, for the price I want... Cash... Or I walk away.
Okay, so it's not THAT easy. But, it does make it easier to cut out dealing with financing.
So, I get used to corporate america hours... Which is like a 60 to 80 hour work week, with possible 100 hour work weeks.
I stay in and stop spending money on anything that might be frivolous. Or might have been a potential way to meet someone... Because as we know, she doesn't live in this area.
I really get ready to sell this house, find a job in a new city, and then... Go fish.
I make the move. It's a gamble... And I might end up hating the job, or hating the area...
But it sure beats just knowing that I'll be single forever and end up old and alone... Never having a family or kids.
Because one thing I can tell you for sure without a doubt... She doesn't live in this area. Because if she did, I would have met her by now.
Plus... I'm willing to bet as soon as I move, I'll at least meet a girl to date. Like, my friend Jess moved to Jacksonville, Florida and she had a boyfriend within a few months! She had been single for YEARS before she moved. SO... Moving... Will... 100 percent... Solve my dating problem.
Because I can tell you 1000 percent without a doubt, without any hesitation in my mind... the future love of my life, does not live in the Philadelphia area. Where she lives is anyone's guess... But I know for sure she doesn't live here.
Okay, so the phrase is "You better recognize". But, say organize, as if you're saying recognize.
That's the title of this post.
So, we've been doing some organizing at work a little. Spring cleaning, and just moving things around in the office. Really, it's the intern student doing it.
He's chompin' at the bit to do things, so thats his current task.
So, far things are already a little better. And he's been cleaning out some things and such.
One of the ideas that we discussed while the cleaning out and reorganizing was occurring...
Oh, wait, really quick... So our office at work, just to give a better idea, is just one room. It's the "tech room". So, there's about 5 desk spaces in that room. There's my desk, my bosses desk, and my coworker's desk. Then there's two table workspaces where the work study and intern student's sit.
That means, there's a lot of cross room chatter and banter. I noticed, personally at least, that when there's a full staff abroad the ship... I do significantly less work. Why? Because we talk a lot.
This is why I've been doing more remote work in the evenings and on the weekends. That way, people can come to the door, my coworkers can talk.... The intern and work-study students can talk too. I can basically just do whatever during the day...
And then I can make up the work I don't get done in the evening remotely when I'm at home surrounded by cats.
I'd totally never get any work done at all if I had a roommate.
So glad my roommates are cats.
Plus I live in the burbs, on my own plot of land, with no neighbor being close enough for me to hear them even if they made noise.
Which is exactly how I like it. Don't get me wrong, having an apartment is okay too... But, to be honest? I'll never have an apartment ever again.
I'm always going to own a house, and not one of those houses that touches my neighbor so you can still hear them beside you, or you have a little tiny bit of concrete separating the two of you.
I want lawn between us. Lots of lawn.
I won't live in this house forever, but when I buy my next house, it will be equally as burbsy, or even possibly rurally or small towny.
Am I sounding like an obnoxious brat who inherited enough money that I have a choice to own property like that instead of being confined to only renting or buying some run down row home? Absolutely. And I'll own it. But you know what, my grandparents and mom left me this money so I could do that. I know people who were left money and spent a good amount of it traveling, or I know people who know people who spent their inheritance on drugs. Okay, traveling... That's not too bad because you get the worldly culture experience and what not. But drugs? That's a waste.
So for me to put my money into property or homeownership? I feel that in the subset of citizens on planet earth who inherit money... I'm one of the more responsible ones.
Plus it's not like I'm being some grinch. Just two weeks ago I donated 100 bucks to a charity event. SO... I don't want to hear it.
And I plan to write another 100 dollar check in the near future for a fund that helps disadvantaged youths attend summer camps.
So what if I LIKE living where I live?
I'm going to own it. I'm just saying that city living, apartment life, and roommates, and confined spaces with close neighbors, like row homes... Just aren't for me.
Some people love it. I know people who have willingly sold spacious houses in the burbs to move to the city to some crap little run down row home and fix it up. I believe they're called hipsters. Although my one friend hates that term... She just wanted to live in the city and wanted to buy something at a lower price than she would eventually sell it for by buying a house that needed work, then renovating it as she lived in it, and then selling it later on.
She complains all the time about her parking situation and neighbors being loud.
Just saying, if you'd never left the burbs...
Okay, so anyways... So, we were chatting at work in this room... and one of the things we came up with is a website that gives you organization options.
It probably already exists because everything already exists.
But we were saying there should be an organization site. You put in the room type...
- Room in a house
- Residence Hall
Then you drag and drop items to where they currently are.
Desks, chairs, tables, lamps, dressers, whatever...
Then you click, optimize and re-organize.
It tells you where the best place to move things is to get the most optimal use out of the space.
Obviously, it wouldn't be perfect. Because each space it really up to your own personal preference and likes.
But It might give you some ideas for where to move things around!
So, whether you like a little itty bitty living space, like The Genie in Aladdin. Or you're like me and you want a sprawling suburban home with lots of lawn and a driveway to park in... It will help give you ideas as to where to put your crap to get more out of the space.
And obviously monetizing it would be easy-peasy because you could just link to specials or furniture sites or whatever. You could even do a thing where when someone does a reorganization, they can drag and drop new things into the room, and those items would be actual things they could buy...
And if they click the link NOW and buy NOW, they get a special discount pricing. Now being at the time they did the organize your space mapping.
Or you can save rooms and we'll send you special items and special pricing or let you know when things go on sale that you've saved to put in that room, but you just don't quite want to spend the money yet.
Like, we'll optimize your room, then you can fit more stuff, and we'll let you know when things go on sale. Or just link you to things that might work better. Maybe replace instead of add. Or maybe if there's things you want to sell from the room, like upgrade your couch, or dresser, we'll even connect you to possible buyers who might be good matches for things to fit in their own room!
Actually, I just thought of that, and that's an awesome idea.
Like, if people map out their spaces and then they don't want something, they can click "I don't want this" and then it will go out and find other rooms where that might fit perfectly and then it will notify that person that a match has been found.
It's like matching/dating site but for organizing your living/working spaces.
Actually, if that doesn't exist. I'm seriously considering trying to start that.
That's a pretty cool idea. It probably already exists though.
It's kind of like Craigslist, or eBay or that "let go" site... Except it matches and organizes the space for you and connects you with people who it thinks might have something that might fit, or connects you to someone who might have something that might fit. Or connects you to store sales, or specials. Or just connects you to shopping sites to optimize your space on an optimized budget.
Pretty neat, right? I thought so.
Get it? I used "neat" because it's a room organizer site. Aren't I witty? You know it!
So... Today I found out that was a thing.
I can't say I've ever heard of that before. But, it's a thing. Apparently.
I'm not so sure I'd ever buy one. It seems cool though. I only found out about that because a couple days ago I bought beet noodles at the store and was curious how they were made.
There's your answer.
So, let's see... Well tonight I made asparagus as my vegetable with my dinner. That was in addition to my salad that had beet noodles on it.
I made a salmon filet for the main meal.
The asparagus was pretty good though! I cooked it in some butter, garlic, and then some onions.
I sautéed it.
Then I put that next to my salmon filet. And then I had the salad in another bowl. I then finished off that pre-made potato salad I still had from the other night.
Tonight I watched the final episode for season 4 of Orange Is The New Black. So good. But, also super emotional too!
Hmmm... Well... The other stuff I did was start gathering tax stuff. I need to start that this weekend.
For now though? I'm just super tired. Work as sooo busy this week. So, I'm just about to call it a night and head to bed.
Hopefully tonight I don't wake up with my leg all pins and needles. I totally fell asleep on it last night in the middle of the night! I woke up and then the whole pins and needle thing started. That's just the worst! I hate that feeling.
Well I'm just worn out... So, I'm going to head to sleep. So glad it's Friday.
My new favorite thing is spending my evenings after I get home from yoga, which is what I do pretty much every night after work now, cooking dinner.
I actually setup my laptop too and my iPad so I can watch Netflix and type on my laptop while I cook dinner!
I make myself a nice home cooked meal, and then watch Netflix. I also work on things on my laptop. Like write this blog, or remotely sort emails at work.
Honestly? I kind of want to completely redo my kitchen at some point. My next thing though is that I need a new phone, and I have to repoint the brick work in the front of the house.
I did buy some new work pants the other night and I wore them today. Snazzy. They're comfy! And they look cool too.
Tomorrow is Friday! Woo. I'm soo ready for the weekend. It's been a busy week. My boss is back at least. He drinks weird smoothies every morning since he's got this thing happening now where he has to change his diet and consume lots of fruits and veggies.
I told him to buy a juicer and try adding juicing in addition to the blending. Additionally I told him to read this one book called "Food Rules". It's everything anyone needs to know about eating right.
I made a big salad tonight and as well a turkey burger and then a small soup to go with it. Since my boss is being forced to eat all healthy by his doc... I've decided to add more healthy things to my dinners and lunches and what not. Although, I already eat fairly healthy I suppose... But I do enjoy some "comfort foods" every now and then. Who doesn't!?!?
Anyways, so I'm going to try and maybe be more in solidarity with him.
Well, at any rate I'm enjoying just spending more time in my kitchen and making nice dinners and such.
I have a whole list of projects for around the house that I want to accomplish, and staying in and cooking my own meals saves TONS of money. Seriously, going out and eating out is actually really expensive! You might not realize it if you spend a little here or there on food every once in a while, but it really is expensive. And it definitely adds up. Plus, if you stay in and cook, generally your meals tend to be healthier as well. SO, it's a win all around.
Well, I'm off to bed in a few, I have to figure out what I want to cook tomorrow night! I might stop at IKEA and LOWES tomorrow after yoga.
My next small projects are that I want to re-do the house numbers on the front of the house, and I'm looking for a very specific piece of furniture. Like, it's a wooden coffee table esk type of thing, but not really, and it has cloth or fabric covered bins that slide in one side. I can't really describe it but I'd know if I saw it. You can store things in the cloth fabric bins that slide into it... Those are cubes, there's like 8 of them or so.... But the thing is about the size and shape of a coffee table. I know it exists and I'm not making things up. I'm kind of just looking for something like that. Doesn't have to be THAT exact thing, but something that I can put stuff on top of it and use it in one of my rooms to organize, and then I can use the bins that slide into it for storage.
So I figure I'll just browse IKEA and see what they have. My other small project is to go to Target at some point again and pick up picture frames to frame memory things of my mom. And then put those up around the house. There were these two poster things made by my sister for her funeral that we put in the one room here as a little memory area. So, I'll probably put those in frames and then hang them in one of the rooms.
I'm not sure yet. I have lots of ideas though of things I want to do around the house. SO, we'll see. I'd like to do some decorating, renovating, and buy some new furniture and such in the near future. That's the grand plan anyway.
"Yeah, but what if I don't like worm."
"Too bad. Worm is what's on the menu. Enjoy your worm!"
"Hey you know, this worm is pretty good. Not too bad. I'm not really big on worm but this worm isn't bad worm."
So today I got up SUPER early and went into work early. It wasn't bad. Tomorrow I'm back to the normal time. SO, thats awesome. It will probably feel almost like I'm sleeping in. Yesterday I went in early too. I'm happy to be back to the normal time. I feel like once in a while though, I might go in early just for kicks.
Well, okay, what I mean is... When you're early, it just makes it feel like you're more on top of things.
It's interesting to come super early to work. I mean, I'm not talking about 15 or 30 minutes. I was a full hour and a half early.
It just feels like the day starts off on the right foot. I think maybe once a month, I might just do that. Come a good hour and a half early.
It also makes the regular day seem shorter. If you make a long day every once in a blue moon, it will give you something to contrast things against.
See, I mean, I've been at the same job and the same organization basically my entire adult working life. SO, I don't really have much to compare it against.
I know a lot of people change jobs every couple years, some even every few months!
I've just happened to have stayed where I'm at. I'm always 9-5. It's really 9-5 with an hour lunch. It's supposedly a 7 hour work day. I used to do that back in the day when I was a young one. But, now a days I just eat lunch at my desk and remote in after hours... And come early sometimes. And I'll remote over weekends generally too.
My coworker on the other hand refuses to do any of that. He's strictly his hours, doesn't check his email outside of work, doesn't remotely connect... Etc. etc. He's entitled to do as he pleases.
Different strokes for different folks I guess. He has a wife and kid though, and I'm just a single guy, so I don't really have any obligations outside of my cats.
I'm one of those people who likes to go a little above and beyond though. But that's just how I am.
Seriously though, the early bird does seem to get the worm... Now, whether you like worm or not is a different story...
But, like today... Going in early, it just makes you feel more in control of your work.
Also, if you're spotted being there early, people kind of give you that vibe like... "Oh... Hey... Look at you... Coming in all early and what not."
The opposite is true too if you show up late.
If you show up late, even by 10 minutes, at least when I do, it throws off my whole day. I hate it. I can barely focus. I feel like I can't accomplish anything.
Anyways tomorrow... I'll be exactly on time. I might aim for ten minutes early. We'll see.
And whether or not I like worm, I'm still going to have some worm maybe once a month.
Just kind of get up randomly and come in maybe an hour and some change early.
All I know is that this week, my boss's boss wasn't going to my coworker to "check in" on things and "get updates on the phone carrier switchover..." She was coming to me.
Is that a good thing? Who knows. Just something I noticed.
But that's the thing, if you volunteer to show up earlier than your regular work hours... It makes people look at you differently. You can just tell. They look at you in a way, almost as if to say... This employee seems slightly more responsible than I previously thought they were. I'll keep that in mind for the future.
But most importantly though with this whole worm thing... I don't know, surprisingly I liked it. I thought I would really kind of be annoyed possibly, or just hate being there so early... I didn't even bother to leave exactly 8 hours after I arrived.
I was just like, I'll just stay my normal hours on top of the early bit. I mean, I really didn't mind. It was interesting. I don't much care for worm usually... But today... You know the rest.
Today my boss was back in town. And by back in town, I mean back at work. Of course my other two coworkers decided to skip "town".
Can't have it all. And by "have it all" I mean... Can't have everyone at work at once.
Anyways, I take a day when it's not just me playing sheriff as a good day.
I was going to take off blogging today but I figured Doogie Howser might not be too happy about that.
After all, he was a teen doctor and he always managed to write at the end of the evening/show!
Anyways today at work I was helping the web/marketing person at work figure out an issue with Mail Chimp not sending emails through. We figured out that the Barracuda was the issue. Barracuda is our spam blocking appliance that the mail servers sit behind.
So, as we speak, I'm updating IP lists to allow those chimps and those barracudas to get along.
What happens next? Hopefully the students see their weekly inbox blasts with all the campus events.
We shall see!
Well, tonight was busy as well, I got my choppers shammied up at the dentist, and got tacos with my brother. This actually happened in reverse order, I don't know why I typed it in that order. I'm probably just extra tired.
Then I went to the gym, and now I'm at home doing some things before bed. Tomorrow will be a busy day with switching the phone system over.
So... We'll see how that goes.
I'm ready for the weekend already so I can just sleep in. Who's ready for the weekend? I am! Who has plans this weekend? Not me. My only plans are to stay home basically the whole weekend.
Hopefully work on some hot new jams and things around the house.
Today I was the only sheriff in town. It was alright. I mean OBVIOUSLY I'd rather be part of a team than the only gun slinger laying down the law.
Boss is still out, and my coworker was out because he worked Saturday.
It's interesting though being the only firefighter with a hose to put out fires. Like, if I weren't there today... There'd be no one to answer any of the helpdesk worries.
I felt a little like a superhero I guess. Haha, like "Oh no! Who's going to fix this computer conundrum for us!"
And then I swoop in and I'm just like... "WHY, I WILL!"
And they are like, "Oh my!"
Okay, so not exactly, but still.
The thing I hate though is that I can't take care of everyone fast enough. Obviously you need a whole team to run a helpdesk. Unless it's a VERY small business then you can get away with one person. But an entire college would be in big trouble if there were only one guy running the show.
I went to the vet after work, then yoga, then the store, then cooked dinner, made a crab cake and bought potato salad and made an actual salad too.
Anyways so suffice it to say I'm pooped! I'm about to head to sleep. Tomorrow I have a teeth cleaning after work. I actually have to be at work early to supervise a firewall config by a consulting company that is helping to port our phones over to a new provider so the college can save money. I didn't have to come in an hour early...
But the guy doing the config suggested 8am.
Here's my thing about work ethic... To me? You make things as smooth as possible. Especially if your boss is out.
So, if the guy is like 8am for the firewall config, and then I say... "Oh, well, You know, I kind of don't come in until 9."
I mean, hey, everyone has their own work ethic... But to me? You can get out of bed an hour early one day.
Although I also have to be at work an hour and a half early on Wednesday for the actual porting over of the phone system.
But I'm just like big deal. I can sleep in this weekend.
My thing is, and has always been, work hard. It doesn't matter what you do, or who you work for...
But if you're not going to be willing to go that little extra mile, there's someone else who is, and they would LOVE to have your job.
So, if you are just going to be lazy and be like... "Well, you know, my actual start time isn't usually until 9am."
And your point is?
You're not entitled to a job. You have your job because that organization needs something done and you're the best/most qualified person to get that task accomplished.
So, prove it. Prove that they hired you for a good reason.
Just work hard. That's my thing. If someone needs you to come in an hour early once in a while, do it.
Anyways I'm off to bed.
I've often likened, at least in my mind, life to a giant labyrinth. Each new turn or twist has some new puzzle to solve. You're trying to find your way out... Whatever out is.
I've always thought out was the thing that I would spend all my time doing if I didn't have to do anything else in life. SO, for me at least "out" is writing songs and recording those songs. It's anything artsy really, the whole acting books music thing. Etc. Just sitting and thinking, going on runs in the summer outside on a nice day. Mostly playing guitar/drums/bass/keyboard... And messing around in my music programs.
But the labyrinth of your life can be whatever it is you like to do. I guess we're all making our ways through our own life labyrinths.
The life labyrinth is made up of all the little struggles that we come across, and then we have to figure out the best way to... Well... Figure them out. Right?
So, we're all kind of just wandering around down these paths and coming into these obstacles and having to figure them out...
Maybe it's dealing with an issue at work, or having a struggle with family, or your living situation. Life just keeps throwing more obstacles at you at a constant pace. The life labyrinth just keeps going, relentless.
The thing is, you think, okay, if I JUST get this done, or that done... I'll be set. I've kind of realized that, that's never the case.
The labyrinth will always suck you in further and further, and you'll always have troubles to deal with. So, what can you do?
Well, the thing about it all is, you get better at knowing how it works. So, it's not that life gets any less labyrinthy or that you come across less struggles. But, you get better at dealing with them.
There's a scene in Bruce Almighty where he's answering all the prayers coming into his inbox with one hand and sipping coffee with the other. Which is kind of what I've figured out is how this life works. There's always going to be stuff coming at you, but what happens is you get better at dealing with all the stuff. You figure out how to deal with stuff faster so that you can go back to what you want to do.
For me? That meant actually backtracking instead of going forward.
For some foolish reason I thought I was supposed to run around town and go all over to these things because I'd bump into some lead that would then take me somewhere. All it did was consume a lot of my free cashflow and time and energy. Since I've been staying home instead and only going specially to things like yoga, the gym, the store... Lowes, Target... Etc. etc.
This way, I'm starting to deal with things faster. Which then frees up more energy and time and resources to gear towards what I REALLY want to do.
For me, that's music.
And the thing is, it's a feedback loop. So the more you become better at dealing with the obstacle and such the better you become at dealing with future ones. Which frees up more free time.
At least that's what I'm finding. So, instead of going "out"... the way out, is actually "in". Crazy, I know... But it turns out that the way out of the labyrinth of life, at least for small periods of time, isn't to try to stay out late and run all around, it's to just stay in. It's to just be IN the labyrinth and just get better at dealing with all the stuff coming my way.
So, my previous logic was that if I drive places and go "far" I'll be able to then get to further places in life eventually. But, if I stay in and actually don't go very far, that frees up money for me that I would have spent on gas and tolls and miles on my car and time spent driving... And instead I can work on things at home, not only more music, which can then be downloaded and streamed which will in turn actually generate more revenues for me...
But I can work on work work, and I can work on my house, and I can work on better stock pick research...
All of these lead to better outcomes.
Working on work work puts me ahead at work and makes it so my actual 9-5 work day is less stressful and more manageable. Working on my house increase the value of the house when the time comes that I will finally/eventually sell it, and working on stock picks means I can get better earnings on my stocks and investments which then let me use that cash coming in to do more with... The house, music, go buy new work clothing so I can look shaper at work... Whatever... Eat healthier so I can feel better so I can have more energy.
To deal with the labyrinth even better.
Anyways so my current plan to be able to do more later on down the road... Is to do less. To get out of the Labyrinth, I'm going in.
Instead of trying to get away from it all, just get better at dealing with it all. Find better ways.
One thing I did was, my wrists would hurt from all the computer use that I do... Now I go to yoga every day. I pay a monthly fee and just go every day. So, now I can type type type... I just go after work and do an hour yoga every day.
Another thing is that sometimes my coworker wants to go eat in the cafeteria for lunch... Instead of staying in the office and eating at our desks. My personal thing is.. I like to stay at my desk and do work through lunch. I just like to get things done and have an open cleared task list so that we can just get the next issue right as it comes in. Because there's always stuff. So if you step away for even an hour or whatever... You come back to people running around screaming in a panic because something isn't working right somehow and so they are like... "AHHHHHHHH!!!! WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN!!?!?!?!?"
And then we have to get through the backlog of people with computer emergencies.
He's more of, all about taking his lunch break, because he likes to get out of the office. But he doesn't want to lunch break alone, so he wants me to go. So, I'm just like okay that's fine. But I brought my lunch.
Now what? I go to yoga after work... SO my lunch would sit in the car for an hour and spoil.
I bought a little cooler. Now I can just put my lunch in the cooler and take it home for dinner. Problem solved. SO not only can I yoga to keep my wrists from hurting, but I can also keep my lunch for dinner.
Life labyrinth 0, me 1.
So, I'm at home on this Saturday working on various things I need to get done. I'm working on the following:
-Cover art for new tracks, working in photoshop on cover art for 2 new songs.
-Running the dishwasher (I run it once a week generally and hand wash in between).
-Working on things remotely at work, keeping my emails cleared.
-Stock research, everyone's talking bout Snapchat... They have negative earnings. I don't invest in companies with negative earnings. That's speculation. Companies alliterative to SNAP that I do like? Snap-On tools, Toro, Dr Pepper Snapple. I plan to snap up shares of both Toro and Snap-On tools. I've owned both in the past and stupidly sold for profits. Now I'm kicking myself. I keep waiting for the pull back that never comes.
-I have Word open and I'm working on my book.
-I have my music production software open and I'm working on other music related things.
-Dating site replies... I mean, you'd think I would have given up on this by now, but I guess I still have hope that one day... I mean I have a few friends that are like... "Oh I met my significant other on there! It just took a LONG time." SO, maybe it's just taking a long time? Never know. The day I disable my profile could have been the day that she finally signs up. Then we missed each other by one day. There's one girl I'm super close to going on a date with, that we've been chatting for a little while now. Maybe something will come from that? Never know! Of course it's interesting because you talk forever usually, then finally go on a first date... and most of the time, the in person communication is nothing like what the online communication was. And how you imagined the person is WAAAAY different from how their vibe is actually in person. It's not bad, just different. I hate meeting in person initially because I always imagine that the person is disappointed some how. That's why second or third dates are better because you're over that initial shock of... the first date. Which is why I'd rather meet someone in person, or date a friend. Then you already KNOW each other. That never happens though because everyone I know is already in relationships or married. It's kind of hard to date someone if they aren't single! That's kind of requirement number one when it comes to dating... Are both people single? If no, you can't date each other... If yes, you can proceed to step two! Kind of how it works.
-Replying to attorney emails about my mom's estate stuff. We're still wrapping up things. She had a lot of things.
-Making shopping list for grocery store
-Fixing broken things around the house. Toilet ceramic cover chipped and I finally got the proper glue to glue the broken piece back on! Woo Lowes. (Another great stock I would choose over Snap Inc. hands down). Lowes or Home Depot are both heavy hitting dividend aristocrats too. And with lots of 20 and 30 something home buyers entering the market who want trendy run down homes in hipster areas of cities they can fix up themselves and Home Depot and Lowes stores have built stores just in perfect areas for city people to go buy supplies from. Those two are a buy for me. I hold Home Depot currently.
-Go to the gym later and the store.
-Just cleaned out the cat litter boxes.
Anyways, so yeah, my Saturdays are generally my stay at home and catch up and relax days. I slept a good 12 hours last night.
Anyways but seriously I'm tightening down the budget hatches like crazy right now...
-I just paid 1500 bucks in property taxes.
-Need to replace my washer, dryer AND fridge. That will cost me over 5 grand easy.
-I have to find a cat sitter and pay that person for when I go to Maine in June... Last year that cost me a good chunk of change. I had over 3 thousand dollars in vet bills alone last year too.
-I have to pay my annual homeowner and car insurance. So, that's a good 2 grand right there.
-My phone is an iPhone 5 that I bought back in like 2013. I REALLY need to refresh that. I want to buy one that I can fit all my music on and what not so that's another like 800 bucks right there.
-I'm going to need to make some house repairs, I need to hire a contractor to repoint the brickwork, I'm not sure how much that will cost but every time my mom had her contractor do anything it was a good couple grand at least. Her final bill before she died was over 10 thousand dollars that was still owed to the contractor. That was paid from her estate.
SO, spur of the moment Paris trip? I wish. Maybe some day. I have too many other costs. Plus my normal bills and groceries and fees for things like yoga and the gym? And my co-pay for my dental cleaning that I have next week and things like that.
Plus I just don't have the energy for a spur of the moment Paris trip. I mean, maybe because I have a house with 3 cats and what not. Most nights the cats wake me up in the middle of the night so I never get a full night's sleep. And the house is always making weird noises. Don't know what THAT's all about?
Although this latest week since I didn't consume any alcohol and I went to yoga every night after work, I definitely felt a little boost in energy.
But still financially speaking, okay yes I COULD just book a random trip to Paris... But this money I've received from my mom's estate and the trust would dwindle and not be replenished. Then my bank account would be back to zero. And besides who wants to be that person who inherited money and then becomes the person who is talked about all like... "Oh, yeah, I heard they inherited money, but now it's all gone, it's a shame really. Such a shame."
No thanks. I want money that works for me, not money I have to work for.
Paris on a whim will have to wait. For now I use my Saturday's to do work... SO, it's a Workurday to me.
Time to really hunker down and work hard. There's music to be made, books to write, home repairs to be done. Bills to be paid. And 9-5 work to be completed. And there's cats to tend to.
Soooooo... I decided to challenge myself this month to stay in more, right? Right.
Why? Well, mostly because I was just wasting lots of money on stupid things like going out to bars hoping to meet the love of my life and all that... Which obviously did not happen.
Who knows where she is right now.
Anyways, SO, I decided okay I want to stay in more, do more work at my job remotely to stay ahead, go to yoga more and the gym more and just cook more meals at home and eat healthier and such...
Basically just stack the odds of being more successful in life going forward in my favor.
Well one of my challenges to myself was to see if I could keep my credit card bill for this billing cycle on the lower side. I made it! I actually kept it under a thousand dollars, which was basically my goal.
Of course today I just wrote and dropped off a check for the property taxes for my house, which sucks, but hey, the township uses it to run things. So, it's fine.
But anyways I did make it successfully below my intended credit card budget of 1000 bucks. Obviously I have other bills to pay... Water, gas and electric... Etc. etc.
I'm definitely going to keep with what I'm doing. Stick with yoga and the gym and home cooked meals, and focus on trying to gear resources to replacing things around the house, and then as well I REALLY need to focus on making new music and such. AND I want to upgrade my music software and also buy at least some kind of small drum set or something.
The goal is to focus on things that could possibly bring me success in life.
I guess maybe I've been putting the cart before the horse with love. Everyone is like... "Oh you find it when you aren't looking..." And stuff like that.
Well, maybe I just need to be in a different place in life in order to meet her. Maybe I need to be making a significantly higher pay grade. Or maybe I need a crazy cool job title. Or maybe I need to just move somewhere new. Like sell this house, and get out of dodge so to speak. Try a new city or town.
It's a lot easier to prepare for a big move and selling my house and maybe eventually looking for a new job in some brand new far off land/city if I just stay home and work hard.
I guess it's counter intuitive because you'd think by going out a lot I'd increase my odds of meeting that special someone. But maybe she doesn't live in this area! Maybe she lives far away. And so I have to stay in, in the short term, and work hard, in order to move up to some other place in life... and THAT's how I'll meet her.
I mean, I don't know... You know? Maybe that's not how I'll meet her. I guess everyone meets someone in different ways. Certainly you can't possibly know where to meet someone before you meet them, or there'd be no use for dating sites, or singles cruises, or singles social clubs, or speed dating... Etc. etc.
Because everyone could just dial in on where the person they are supposed to marry is and GPS the way to find love.
Doesn't work like that though. It's like a casino... Or the lottery... Eventually, your number comes up.
But no one knows where or when.
So for now... I just focus on what I know I can accomplish and forget about meeting someone who may or may not ever even exist. I mean, it's entirely possible that I never meet this love of my life.
But I KNOW that I can work hard at work, I can work out a lot, I can work on recording and creative things and I can work on my house. It's not like if I go to Lowes, maybe I'll find paint.
If I go to Lowes... there will be paint. No doubt about it.
And then my walls will have a nice fresh coat of paint on them after I paint them.
If I go out to a bar and waste money on beers and stand there trying to talk to women... I'll be out money, it's bad for my health... And I'll still need to paint my walls.
It's just pointless and a waste of time TRYING to find her.
So, I need to focus on the fact that I can work on making new email accounts from home over the weekend. And knowing that when I walk into work on Monday morning I can say... "Oh, that email account for that new staff member? Yeah I did that over the weekend."
I can't 100 percent guarantee that no one is going to say... "You did that already? You suck."
Never going to happen. You will 100 percent of the time always get... "You did that already? Sweet! Wow. Thanks!"
And then the person who was requesting the work to be done will be like... "Yeah, that's awesome."
SO, that's the new plan. Hunker down... Stay in. Give up on meeting that special someone as it's just a waste of time and money and effort that hasn't lead me to her as of yet, and probably won't ever lead me to her...
At least as far as the bar scene goes it won't.
But maybe hard work will and if that doesn't lead me to her either... I still get rewarded for it either way!