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Two Londoners

Tonight I went out to Iron Hill to work on my book.  I got a pizza and two pints.  I wrote a paragraph... And then started a conversation with two Londoners.

Super nice guys.  Both of them were from London, but met their wives, who are from the states, and moved here.

One guy said he actually moved up from Florida, Fort Lauderdale to be exact, because he just didn't like it there.  He thought everything was fake and plastic feeling.

I found that interesting.  I mean, okay I've never lived there... But he genuinely said that having lived in many places, including London, NYC, and lots of other places, that Philadelphia was the most real city he'd lived in.  He said he really truly liked Philly because the people here are just so much more genuine and real.

I guess?  I mean, I feel like there's probably a mix of people everywhere.

He said he really didn't like Florida at all.  He said the people there are just, for the most part, fake.  I decided to defend the area and I said, I'm sure there are probably some people that are like that, and some people that are more genuine.

He said he didn't enjoy living in that area and would not move back.

I mean, I guess some people like it, and some don't.

His advice to me was to go live there for a year and I would "see what he means".  As of right now I have no plans to live in Fort Lauderdale for a year.  So, I'll just have to take his word for it.

Anyways, it was fun conversation on the whole, we talked about everything under the sun.  I got about 2 paragraphs written between chats, which I don't think is too bad.  I'm just getting closer to finishing it, which is my only goal at this point.

Tomorrow I'm off from work.  I think I'm going to sleep in, continue some more yard work and try to get a bunch of things accomplished from my to-do list.  I also plan to practice songs to go play an open mic on Wednesday.  Thursday is running club.  Ideally I'd like to make each night of the week have some activity to just be out and about...

Running club
Open mic
Karaoke maybe?
Quizzo

That kind of stuff.

The thing about going out that I've learned is, it's better to do the same activity week after week.  If you go to recurring activities where you see the same people again and again, it's a better experience than the one time, never see people again, thing.

So, running club, for example, is the same people over and over again.  So, you get that experience where you see the person again after seeing them before, and you're like... "YOOOOO!!!! WHAT'S UP???  HOW WAS YOUR WEEK????"

You can't get that going out to a one time event.  The key is to do something where it repeats.  Repeating is the key to building friendships, and or the possibility of a relationship.  That's the key.  It has to be something that happens over and over again.  One time things are no good.

One of the running club people still maintains that if I go to running club long enough, I'll meet someone there.  I don't know.  I mean, okay, to be fair, I like to run, and go on runs, but I'm not a runner.

I mean, heck, I'm not really much of anything.  I just do stuff.  But I'm fringe.  I do things that I do, but I'm not officially anything.  I'm a jack of all trades, master of none.  Most people have at least one thing they are "legit" at.  That they are career focused at becoming or doing.

I feel like I just haven't found that yet.  I'm still testing the waters with lots of things.

Which I guess is okay.  Maybe it's not.  I mean, who knows.

Right now my main goals are to keep cleaning out the house, reduce the clutter... streamline my life, increase my passive income (the surf salary), tackle the projects I have on my to-do list, write music, finish this book... Find better ways to do things more efficiently in general in my life.

And keep going to things that may hopefully one day lead to me meeting that special someone.  I'm open to pretty much anything that might come my way.

I've decided that... Whatever happens, happens.  I've also decided that when it comes to love no matter what, I'll always be here and waiting for Miss Daylight.  So, let's say I do meet someone at running club.  Let's say her and I even start dating... Should Miss Daylight ever change her mind and decide she's interested in me... I'd break up with this person for her.  Let's say running club girl and I are in a long term relationship... I'd still break up with her for Miss Daylight.

I mean, let's say I meet someone anywhere, running club or not... Maybe out at an open mic... Or whatever.  Even if I were married.

Miss Daylight could still just say the word...

5 years from now... 10 years from now... 20 years from now... Doesn't matter.  I could be married 10 years in and have kids and whatever... If she were interested, I'd be there.  I'd separate from whoever I was with, file for divorce... And I'd be there.

Anyways for now, I'm single as can be.  I have no idea where life will lead me.  Who knows... I'll just keep floating on down this crazy ride in the river of life and seeing what comes next.  Maybe the book will get published.... Maybe I'll make billions in the stock market, or maybe I'll finally write that top of the charts number one tune.

Or maybe I end up somewhere new in a year or two and then life takes a completely different turn that I didn't even see coming... I guess only time will tell.  The two Londoners said that before they met their significant others their lives were completely different, with completely different wants and desires and that they never saw themselves ending up in Philadelphia... So... I guess life takes you where it wants to when it wants to.  For now, I'm here, waiting for life to take me where it wants to take me.