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Haunted Hayride

Tonight I hit up the Bates Motel and Haunted Hayride thing.  It was fun.  I've done it twice before.  I'm fairly certain it's basically the same stuff, maybe with a couple of little different things.  But pretty much it's the same as before.  The only difference was that each year I've gone with different people.

So the first year was with this girl on a date... and then there's a whole long story to that ending in me writing the book I'm writing...  That was waaaaay back in 2010.

The second time was last year with my coworker, and then this year... Again coworker, but instead of his sister and her friend joining us, two of his other friends joined us, and the one girl's friend.

It was fun.  It was cool to meet new people.  Do something I've done before but with new people.

Unfortunately I still have yet to meet that love of my life thing.  Or even just any girl to date.  The new girl I was introduced to tonight already has a boyfriend.  That's pretty much the story of my life these days... I get introduced to someone, annnnnnnnd... Not single.

Out of curiosity I asked her how she met her current boyfriend.  Apparently 10 months ago they were just at a party together of a mutual friend.... They started talking and that's how it went.

I feel like that's probably the best way to meet someone.  Just basically make TONS of friends.  Go to gatherings, and outings.  Any time I'm invited to something... I'll go.  Because all it takes is that one person that got invited that also happens to be single.

So, like this Saturday I'm going to a halloween party.  Although, I already know these people and I can guarantee you, it's going to be the same group of friends.  Every time I hang out with these people, it's always the same core people.  So, I'll go anyways, but I already know I won't meet the love of my life at that party.  I'm just going because I'm friends and it will be fun.

BUT, going forward... I feel like that's the best way to meet someone.  Just go to events, parties, whatever, and just make friends.  I mean, even if I make friends with non-single people, they might have a single friend!  It's like that 6 degrees of whatever and everyone knows someone by 6 degrees.

I mean, that's all it takes really.  Just being at the same party with that one person.  Or, okay so maybe it takes more than that... You have to chat, and you have to have mutual interest.  Etc. etc.

I mean for all I know the girl I might one day end up with could have been both at Harry Potter Fest on Friday night but I just didn't end up chatting with her... and she could have been at the hayride tonight even, but we missed one another by an hour.  Or we just didn't see each other.  Or she could have been one of the people there working all dressed up in makeup and outfit and I wouldn't even know it.  She could have been one of the people that was scaring people on the hayride.

I mean, she basically could have been crossing my path or me crossing hers.... Over and over, and over again.  But we just keep missing one another by a tiny bit.  Maybe we even have mutual friends in common... But we've just never been introduced!  I mean maybe the girl I might fall totally in love with could actually be friends with a girl I've dated in the past.  I know people like that.  They were dating someone for years even, then those two broke up, and then they started dating a friend of the person they dated.  I feel like that's a little strange, honestly, but hey, they're married now.... So it couldn't have been THAT strange for them if they eventually got married and have a kid to boot!

Well anyways... So who knows.  Who knows where this mystery girl is.  I'll admit one thing though... While I'd LOVE to meet that special someone...

I think I'm just getting to the point where I wouldn't mind just dating someone.  Not to fall in love with.  Not even to really have any expectations.  We just date.  Maybe we both agree that it will just be to date with no expectation that we ever take it any further than we're just dating.

I feel like more often than not that's how people do end up getting married or falling in love.  I mean, I'm no expert on this whole falling in love or getting married thing.  But... Who says it has to be anything more than, we date... and then when the day comes we say.... Let's do more with this... We do more... Or if one day comes and we decide it's just not working.  We just do that.

Maybe I'll just take that approach the next time I befriend a friend of a mutual friend at a party.

It can just be like...

Hey look, we're both talking to one another at this party of this friend we both know.

Hey it was great to meet you, here's my number...

Hey look at that, we're texting.

Hey cool, we decided to hang out again and get coffee.

Hey... We're at the movies together.

Hey we're hanging out again.

Hey we both decided to go to this thing and get some drinks.

Hey we just made out.... Oops.  Was that a good idea?  I don't know, I don't know either.

Hey... What are you doing?  I was thinking about that other night and that kiss and for some reason I can't get you out of my mind.  Can we do something again soon.

Hey... We're doing something again soon.  Which means we're kissing... Again.

Hey!  Can we do that kissing thing like... Again.

Hey!!!!  So, remember when we agreed to just kiss.  Yeah?  So, we both failed at that.

Hey... SO now we're doing more than kissing.  Whoops.  Okay.  So... This is a thing now apparently.

Hey!!!!  Come over?

HEEEEEYYYYY!!!!  Come over again?

HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY!  Yeah, we can't stop.  This is something we can't stop now.  We're totally gonna keep going to one another's places.

Hey.  Nice dinner?  Sure.  And then that thing after dinner where we--Ummm yes.

HEEEEYYYYY!!!!!  Can we?  Yep.  And maybe we just get take out?  Sounds good.

Hey.  More dressed up.  Apparently we're some kind of thing now.

Hey.  More of a thing.  More dinner.  More take out.  More hang out.  More.... You know what.

Hey.  Yeah, we're officially a thing now.

Hey.  More of a thing.  I guess we're together together.

HEY!  Okay so... I feel like we should move in together.  We might as well, we just spend every night at one another's place.

HEY!  We're moved in.

HEEEEEEEY!  We live together and everyone knows we're totally together long term.

HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY!  That proposal thing.

Hey.  That marriage thing.

Annnnnnd there you have it.  That's how it happens.

SO all I have to focus on is the first thing.  We talk at a party... and then we exchange numbers.  And don't worry about the rest of that crap because it will just happen.  Because the more you hang out with someone, the more likely you are to become closer and the closer you become the more likely you are to become intimate and once you become intimate you eventually usually wind up in a relationship and then once that happens you get serious and then totally serious and then you end up married.

So all I'm going to do is show up, and wait for another single girl to be at the same thing I'm at, and just talk to her.  And then if we hang out again, we hang out again.

If not.  We don't.

For now... I go to things like Hayrides and hope that the next time my coworker's friend introduces me to her mutual friend... She's single and not already taken.