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Singles Fest

So, dating sucks.  It's just really hard to meet single people in the real world... They all pretty much already are married or have babies at this point...

I've tried it all...

Bars

Clubs

Church

Meetups

There's no one at work.  There's no one at the gym.  There's just no one in the real world

You name it... The real world dating part is just... Doesn't seem to work for me.

So, then there's online dating.  Online dating... Just stinks.  It really does.  Like, there's this whole swiping or matching thing.  Most people never match.  So like out of maybe 100 swipes, for example, on Bumble... I'll get one that swipes me back.

So, we start chatting.  Then usually... They just stop responding.  It's terribly frustrating.  Sometimes it's maybe 2 or 3 messages... Or sometimes it's dozens.  Sometimes when you finally ask for their number, they just stop responding.  Or you ask them out for coffee, or a drink.  Stop responding.

If you get to the point where you HAVE a drink... maybe they keep texting you for a few days... But mostly they just kind of... stop responding.  That's just how it goes.

Then every now and then there's one where you go on a handful of dates.  But then they have some reason... There's usually another guy they were also seeing and they decided that they were seeing him longer and would rather be exclusive with him instead.

Oh well.

So it's back to swiping.  Sometimes you get the ones that respond sporadically.  Or they take forever to respond.  Then maybe they respond a whole bunch... Then not for a week or two.  Then a whole bunch... And not for a week or two.

And you just have to be patient and respond when they respond and just play the game.  It's just a game.

The worst is when you actually are interested or like someone... Then there's the whole... DO they actually like you back?  You try to NOT like them all that much because if they DON'T like you back... and you start to like them more and more... You'll just get hurt when they stop responding.

It's just the worst.  Because almost always every time when you start to like someone, or you start to think it MIGHT actually go somewhere...

Nope.  Usually there's just another guy they are more interested in.

Which sucks.  But that's dating.

So, I do the in person thing... Like festivals.  The problem with festivals... There's SOOOO many married people with kids.  Baby strollers as far as the eye can see.

It's terrible... For a single person at least.  I sat down today at Celtic Fest to enjoy some food, and a 5 year old popped out from under the table and scared me half to death.

I want a festival where I can meet people in person, that are ALSO single... and there aren't kids popping their heads out from under tables at me.

I want strollers to be not allowed at this event.

I want couples kissing in the beer line to not be a sight I have to see.

Instead... It's a festival... of ONLY single people.

Singles Fest.

Music... DJs and live bands.  A dance floor.  Food trucks as far as the eye can see instead of strollers...

Beer.  Wine.  Contests.

It's just a party.  There's games.  Giant jenga.  Giant connect four.

But you know what there isn't?  Couples.  Married people.  Baby strollers.  Kids popping their heads out from under tables.

Singles Fest will be a closed area, you buy a ticket and you have to check in with two forms of ID.  You have to sign into Facebook and show your relationship status.  We look at ring fingers.

And we publish a list on our website for the event of the names of people who attended.  This is for two reasons:

1. If you are there and you ARE actually in a relationship... Your significant other will know.
2. If you meet someone but didn't get their contact info.... You can send a request for it and they can decide to give it to you.  We'll have a fancy app where people sign in and make profiles.

I think that would be fun.  I think it would be easier to meet someone.  And maybe we'll have two or three different fests... like one for 20s one for 30s etc. etc.

Basically it's similar to a singles cruise, but instead of that whole process of booking a cruise and flying to the cruise etc. etc. these are local events in each city.

Just an all day festival for singles.

I WISH this existed.  I'd definitely go to this.