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Consent List

Okay, so I had an idea.

It's called "The Consent List".

Here's how it works...

When we're born, and we enter this world, we start this thing called life.  Now, as we get older, eventually we become of legal age to give consent to people for things.

That basically boils down to... People who we want to do things to us, and people we don't.

It's a bit like a bouncer at a club.  Either you're on the list and you are allowed in... Or you are NOT on the list...

So, this is The Consent List.

Basically as I meet people in life, there are one of two people when it comes to romance... Person A is...

I'm not intersted.  SO, you're not on the list.

Person B is... I'm interested... SO... You're on the list!

Now, what happens is, people start making lists.  Anywhere you go and anyone you meet, you can choose to do nothing, AKA not add them to the list... OR you can put them on the list.

At any point, you can also take them off.

So, let's say I go out to a club... And the bouncer lets me in.  Or a bar.

And at that bar, or club, I meet 50 people that night.  But there's one, or two ladies, who take my fancy.

Great.  I add them to my list.

Now they know that they have my consent.

HOWEVER, let's say both of them decided that at that bar that night, they didn't take their fancy to me.  So, I'm not on their list.

That means, I dig them, and they don't dig me.  But let's say they added 1 other guy each that was out that night... That guy now has THEIR consent.

See how this works?

Now, you can also choose to get an alert when someone adds you as an OKAY to their consent list.  Then you can decide  to consent back.

When you get two mutual consents... That's when you can now enter into something romantic.

BUT as long as there is only one consent per side, or none... Neither side can be romantic towards one another.

It would just be an app and people just make a profile.  And you just start building your list of people you consent to, and people you don't.

When you meet someone out on the town, you can add them, not not add them... But unless both people add one another.... there isn't consent.

Obviously this is for single people only... because if you're already married or in a relationship, you are already consenting to that one and only person that you decided to be with.

Also obviously the app goes away once you're in a relationship because you've already consented to the mutual person that you decided to be with.

SO this is only an app for single people who are looking to date and connect with other people.  It's not an online dating app as in you can't browse for matches... This is just for in person encounters or people you might meet in real life.

Two coworkers working together and one of the likes the other one and they are both single?

Add them to your consent list.  If they look it up and see it, they know.  If they don't... Oh well.

But basically you just build a list that people can look at.  If their name is on the list, should they not have the app, the person can choose to download the app and then consent back.

Like so for example, if I were to make my own list right now?

I would write on the app the people  who I give consent to...

I'm not ACTUALLY going to write it here, but, there are definitely 3 women I know, who I would totally consent to at the moment.

Should they be interested back.

Obviously I don't KNOW if they are or are not because... there isn't an app.

But if there were an app, it would be interesting to know who was out there giving consent.  Maybe it's none... That's probably most likely the case...

But, I mean, who knows... Maybe there's someone out there and she likes me and hasn't said a word, and I have no idea that she does like me...

And maybe I like her back, but I wouldn't say a word either...

But, I mean, we could both like one another, but we don't say anything because we don't know if the other person is or is not interested back, but we don't want to go blurt it out because what if they aren't interested back?

Then it's awkward.

Anyways, that's my idea.

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20Nov/170 doesn't exist... Yet.  But I'm considering some how creating it.

You know, I've never known how any of these founders actually go from idea, to concept, to reality... It's always boggled my mind.

The one thing I do know, is that none of them ever do it alone, they pitch an idea to other people, and get help... The other people go... YAY!  Let's make it!!!

When I pitch ideas... People just stare at me blankly... Meh... Eh... I'm not interested.

Oh well.

That's why I give all my ideas away.  That's why I've never formed a band and do it all myself.

Probably why I'm single too.. Can't seem to capture anyone's interest.

Oh well.

Anyway, I'll just pitch the idea to enough people, and maybe someone will have some kind of interest in making... If not... I'm posting it here, and maybe some venture capitalist entrepreneur from San Francisco will find this post by accidentally Googling something and they will make it.

Anyways, so it's a 5K singles running platform.

Sign up, get fit, and find love at the same time.

Basically you sign up, and then you check box the runs that interest you that are near you, then when you get to the race, you are joined by other 5K Singles runners.

And you all run together.  Then after the race, you grab a beer and some food.

Race together, hang out... Make new friends and run 5Ks.  Get fit, find love.

Now, just to find some other people who are interested in making it a thing.

It could be a site where they have groups in every city.  Like, basically you check off the races that you are interested in, and it shows you how many other singles runners will also be there.  Then you can join up, and mix and mingle.

I think it could be a pretty good site.  Well, there's the idea... Maybe I'll make it, maybe I won't... Or maybe someone else will make it.

5K Singles.


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Last Mow

I think, I just did the last mowing of my lawn for the season.  We'll see.  There might have to be one more, but I doubt it.  Usually the last mow is around Thanksgiving.  I also did some weedwacking and what not.  I think took the battery I was using from the leaf blower and put it in the snowblower just to kind of "fire it up".

I'm SOOOOOO excited to use that thing.  It's weird.  I really shouldn't be excited I suppose.  But I am.

I mean, most people hate snow and cold.  I guess I kind of like it.  That's not to say I want to live in snowy areas my whole rest of my life, but... I'm game for at least this winter.

I feel like ideally, I'd like to have a small townhouse or condo in a warm area that I can just have a real estate company manage and rent out for me, and I block out winter dates to go stay there, then the rest of the year, it gets Air BNBed on my behalf and I just use that income for other things.

I want to own property that I don't manage, but I can use during specific times of the year.  So, one condo maybe by the beach down in a warm climate somewhere, another condo by a mountain ski resort.

I spend maybe a week or two a year at each one, and the rest of the time it gets rented out by a real estate company on my behalf.

A little bit of beach, a little bit of skiing.

That's going to be in the near future.  I might also start taking cruises.


3 words... Realty Income Corp is going to pay for it.  Or, rather, the income coming off the shares I own in that company.

Today, before I went outside to do a little lawn work, I made my first trade of my new trading plan.

I'm pretty much using that as a base income, to then start secondary incomes and then tertiary incomes... And so on and so on.

Money from money from money...

I guess my thing with investing is, I want to own.  I want to own physical property.

Some people I know are all hyped up on Bit Coin investments... If you ask me?  I'm just not sold.  I know, it's probably a missed opportunity... But, to me?  I just don't like the aspect where you physically don't have something in your hand.

I just am a sucker for REITS.  I like physical things.

I'm the same with people.... That's why I'm LOVING running club.  I love being with people.  Drinking beer, conversations, a nice workout beforehand... Get the endorphins flowing.

We live in a world where no one wants to interact in person anymore... And I kind of hate it.  I like to be around people.

Anyway, so... What I like about my life at the moment is that I'm pointing things in the direction I want them to go in.

I want cashflow, I want hard assets as investments.  I want more free time to be able to make music, and write...

Right now, I'm single, I have no kids... I have 3 cats, but two are elderly and probably won't be around in a couple more years.  I have a direction that I want to go in where I want to be able to travel more, I want to have less obligations and responsibilities...

I want to be able to have income coming in to pay for my travels... And I want to be able to use all of that to build more and more income.

Like, if I buy condos, I can rent out those condos and use the income from that to travel to the condo during times when it's not being rented out.

Most of my peers instead save money, travel, wipe out savings, save again.

But that means you have to work hard to save up that money.

If you own the travel destination and pull income from it... Your travels pay you to travel.

It's a smarter way to travel.

Why pay to travel when you can get paid FOR it?

So, for example, I want to travel somewhere, I'll travel there, scout out a condo, buy it, use the condo to stay there... Then turn the condo into income and try somewhere new.

All places eventually get boring... The novelty wears off.  Instead, turn it into income.

In 5 years time on my 40th birthday... I'm hoping to just be traveling the world looking for new condos to purchase and rent out.

I'll get paid to travel and own property.

The rent coming off those properties will just add to my income stream.

It becomes a self feedback cycle that can't be stopped.  The more I own, the more I have coming in.

Just let real estate companies handle it for me.

Just like I'm letting Realty Income Corp handle things for me and then I collect my income from them.  Use that income to feed new investments.

Since probably one day I won't be the one clearing off the snow... I'm excited to do it, even if it's just one last winter... Or, maybe next winter too...

Because then from there on out, I'll just kind of have enough income coming in that I won't be bothered doing my own lawn care or snow removal, unless I REALLY want to.

I like doing it right now because I got these new cool tools, which were all paid for by my investment income coming in... So it's extra exciting because the plan is basically working.

My yard work tools that I used to tidy up my lawn today, were all bought for me.  I didn't use anything but dividend and income money to pay for them.

As that income stream goes up and up, I'll just buy bigger and badder things.

The yard work tools, at least to me, were a kind of investment because it gave me back free time.  Before I bought these items I was spending a lot of time keeping up with just mowing the grass.  Now, I mow, I take care of the weeds... I leaf blow, and I'll snow blow... All in a fraction of the time it took me to do before...

Work smarter, not harder is what one of the summer camp counselors always said to me when I was a counselor there...

I remember Miss Daylight saying something at some point about how you always want to try to make more money while doing less...

I think it was on the podcast thing that she had me listen to.

Reinvesting income back into something new that creates more income, or saves more time.... Can achieve this.

I feel like there are two types of adults, from what I've noticed...

Type one, is that person who you look at them and they are always struggling... They are running around doing a million things, always stressed... Barely afford bills.

They work a main job, a part time weekend job, and another evening job...

Then there's the second kind of person... They have a house with a pool.  They have condos, take vacations... seemly live a life of luxury, but... They barely work!

I know both these types of people.

The only difference between these people?  The first person has no idea how investments work, and the second person has a close relationship with their broker.

Basically investments really are one thing, and one thing only... You own the right to benefit corporate profits.

Okay, there's more to it than that... But that's really the basic premise.

Like, Realty Income Corp has 150 employees that work for it.

They get up, get dressed, make coffee, and go into work 5 days a week.

Then there's the shareholders.

We don't work.  We just hold shares.  And every month on the 15th of the month, we get an income check.

Workers... And owners.

Maybe you like working, I mean heck, I don't mind it... I'd just rather work on book and music than a regular shirt and tie gig... Which is why I'm going to eventually transition to that... Obviously it would be ideal to just make money from books and music, but I'll admit it, I'm not all that great at it... And you have to be REALLY good to make a living from it.

So... I'll just make a living off income and ownership of property and then write books and music anyway.

Really, it's what you want to be a worker and an owner of...

For me?  I want to be a worker of snowblowing...  I'm actually excited about it... At least for this winter.

I want to be an owner of income generating investments.

And that's the key... To be able to do what you want, the way you want it, and be able to make it happen.

To be able to change it when you decide you want to change it... And not have a lot of friction behind it.

To be able to figure out where you want to be a worker, and where you want to be an owner.

Work smarter, not harder... and earn more doing less.

The key, I think, is to not only figure out what you want to do, but to then have the resources to make it all happen.

That's what I'm in the midst of doing... I'm in the middle of building up an independent income from ownership and then using that income to change my lifestyle to become how I'd like to live...

And I learned from the best.  After all, my grandfather didn't work to be able to travel... he worked, and traveled with the work paying for his travel.  He had international business contracts with his fabric finishing company, and then when he eventually sold it... He put the proceeds from the company sale into common stocks and use the income from the dividends to live a life where him and my grandmom could travel when and where they wanted...

He didn't save up for his next travel destination... He just let the income from the investments roll in and relaxed with a good book while that money flowed and then when he felt like it, he traveled where he pleased.

There's nothing wrong with being an owner, or a worker...

It's entirely up to what makes you happy.

Personally?  I want to be an owner when it comes to paying bills... I want to be a worker when it comes to the things that I enjoy doing and what makes me happy.

Most people are workers for paying bills... and the little that's left over, they escape their life that they don't like very much by travel.

I don't want to do that, I want to travel as a destination, not as an escape.

It's an interring concept... Maybe I'll write a book one day... A lifestyle book, self help....  Something like...

"Why Work To Own, When You Can Own Your Work?"

Not too bad of a book title for being made up on the spot!


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Righting The Ship

So, it's weird.  I mean, most people who are trying to accomplish something, are... In so many words, coming from the bottom and making it to the top.

My view, I suppose, is that I'm trying to right the ship.  I'm trying to get back to where things "should be".

I mean, okay, lets assume certain people had never done things they did.... And there's a LOT of variables  here.

I mean, I don't know, if my grandmom had outlived my grandfather.... That would have changed a lot.

I mean, okay if that had happened, there would be no trust right now.  If my grandfather and my grandmom's years that they passed were reversed...

Things would be SOOO different.

My grandmom would have sold the houses in cali and moved back here to Philadelphia to be closer to us.

That means the money would have been moved with her.  While the original trust would have probably stuck... The changes would have never been made.  That means, on my 30th birthday, the trust would have been dissolved and I would have the proceeds outright.

That also means that almost 10 years of court filings would have never happened, that was a million right there in lost money.  That also means that money never would have been spent by the previous trustee the way it was...

I also means that not only would the money not have been wasted, it means it would have been invested... Meaning... There would be a LOT more... I mean... A LOT.

I would have never probably worked the job I worked.  I would have just gone right to being a musician and acting... I would have spent every day doing that stuff, and I would be FAR better at it than I am now... Written far more songs, and spent time in NYC and LA auditioning.

Anyways, so my thing is... In my view?  My world as it is right now, was never supposed to happen.

It's supposed to be different.  And additionally, because I should be in a totally different place...

I probably would have found love already.

Who knows, maybe I would have never made it as a musician or actor, but I'm willing to bet I would have met her somewhere along the line trying.  And... Life would just be SOOO different because I would have multiple millions in the bank.

I'd be so much more carefree, so much more relaxed...

I'd be a totally different person...

But, here we are...

So my job, is to take what I've got, and steer it in the direction that I want.  Take the things I do have and get back to where I'm supposed to be.

That's pretty much my goal.

To continue to invest and try to build back up the original investments that my grandparents owned.

To get to the point where I can work on music and movies and books full time.

To get to where I would have been, if things had never gone the way they did... If my grandmom had outlived my grandfather and moved back here...

Who knows... Yes, there's always the possibility that other bad things could have happened... I guess you never can predict how things would have gone.

It's interesting too because if that would have happened, I probably wouldn't have the novel that I'm writing... I'd probably have a different one maybe...

But, the thing is... If things had gone that way, I don't think I would have met the person who inspired the novel.  So, it wouldn't exist.

I don't know, I guess it's just like, why did thing go the way they went?

I don't know... But what I do know is, my goal right now is to continue to right the ship in the direction that I want things to go.

Clear out the junk in my house... Get my investments to the point where they can pay for trips to LA and NYC to go to auditions.... Make more music, finish my book... and get it made into a movie...

Just do all that stuff... And then hopefully when I get back to that path in life where I'm sure that I should have gone... I meet her.

I've known all along though that she isn't in Philly.  I've never fallen in love with anyone who's a true native Philly person.  Pretty much any of the previous exes of mine that went anywhere significant... All of them were from other places.

So, I'm 100 percent sure, without a doubt, that the one out there I'm supposed to meet... Isn't around here... She's either in NYC or LA, or something like that.  She's just in a place that's more "A-game" territory.

Basically if I want to meet her, I need to then elevate myself back to A-Game... I need to get my personal situation back to where things would have been.

Starting from the bottom... not to get to the top... but to get back to the top.  I'm righting the ship and trying to put things back to where they would have been if things in my past had gone differently.

It's an interesting thing though, like, if any of us could change something in our past... How would that change the now... And would you do it?

I guess if I knew the outcome lead to something better, to a better life, I would...

Anyways, so, that's where I'm at... I have goals and directions that I want to get things and that's where I'm focused, to try and get myself back to where I could have been if specific things in my past had happened differently.

I guess that's the journey though, right?  Life is all about the journey.

I used to be super angry about it... But I guess now-a-days I'm more just like, I look at it as... Well, there's work to be done... Time to get to work!

There are goals to achieve and that's my focus right now.

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Surf Formula

So, I've come up with a surf formula.  It took a while, but I finally figured out a trading method that works for me... Here's how it goes...

I start with my core cash.  Core cash then is actively traded in one stock and one stock only.  These are same day or double or sometimes triple day trades... If I'm right on the trade I make money.

If I'm wrong?  I hold.  My hold could be as long as a year or two... Who knows...

I trade 100 shares exactly and 100 shares only of one stock.  I repeat that over and over and over again.

That stock, is Realty Income Corp.  It's a REIT.  It pays monthly dividends.  If I'm right, like I was 2 days ago, I make 20 bucks.  I made 20 bucks on a two day trade two days ago... It was literally 30 seconds of my time to make 20 bucks.

And I do it all from my phone.

Tap in... 100 shares bought, price changes over night, tap out... 100 shares sold.

15 seconds to buy, 15 seconds to sell.

I used 5600 dollars in capital and bought 100 shares, let the price go up and sold.

Now, what happens if I'm wrong?  I keep my shares.  And I take another 100 share lot and buy again at a lower price.

If I'm wrong again... I buy again.

What happens to the shares I hold?

For every 100 shares I hold, on the 15th of every month I get paid 21 dollars in income, and I keep my shares.

So, either I make 20 bucks over night, same day, or over the course of 2 or 3 days, if I'm right... and if I'm wrong, I make 21 bucks a month, month... after month... after month... after month...

If I'm wrong once, I make 21, if I'm wrong twice, I make 42, 3 times, I'm now getting 63 dollars a month.

Let's say I'm wrong 5 times in a row on catching a short term bottom for one of these small technical swing trades...

Now I just sit... and I collect 5 x 21... Or 104 dollars a month.  Eventually, one of those 5 trades will go green and I'll sell it... Then I start trading in and out again.

It's a bit like waiting for a parking space to open up in a parking lot... 4 of those 5 spots might be taken, or even 5 of the 5... But all you need is one free spot to open up that gate.

More like a parking garage I guess... If you had a garage with 100 spaces... Eventually, one of those spaces will open up.

But how do I know that Realty Income Corp will keep paying you?  And how do you know it will come back?

There's no 100 percent guarantee.  Yes, the company could go bust, and it could slash its dividend... GE just did.  And look at Sears.

It's a bit like using a shovel to dig... Right now, the shovel is in good condition.  It can be used to dig in the sand.  Eventually, the shovel will probably break.  Then I'll find another stock that pays regular dividends and is relatively stable.

The thing about active trades and holds on Realty Income Corp... Is that they have been in business and paying dividends for quite some time.  They are a REIT, which means they pass most of their earnings off as income... they are a triple net leasing company... Basically they don't care if your company goes bust.  They just rent space to you.  If your company goes out of business... They put a sign in that window that says "space available" and a new tenant moves in.

They are diversified in tenants that they rent to, well anyone really.... And the only way a REIT goes out of business is if they run out of tenants to rent to... Just like if a parking garage has no cars looking for spots... The question in 2017 in business is simply now, not how good of a business you run, but... Can Amazon put your company out of business?  They are pretty much THE ONLY competition that anyone cares about at all now.

It's basically every company in the world... Against Amazon.

How likely is Amazon to put ALL of the tenants out of business that Realty Income Corp rents to?  They could.  But, not likely.  Some of the tenants are gas stations.... Some are Walgreens... Some are Dollar General stores... Some is office space.  Movie theaters...

I imagine that a lot of these companies are forming business plans and models to Amazon proof themselves.  Pretty much every company is teaming up now to fight against Amazon.

And at any rate... Amazon themselves don't even own most of the property they use.  Offices, even Whole Foods rents... Most companies don't own the property in which they run their business out of.  They lease it... Longer term 10 or 20 year lease agreements... And... You guessed it... Pay monthly rent.

As a REIT Realty Income Corp basically builds the 4 walls and the roof... And charges rent.  They maintain minimal exterior property maintenance... and pass the rest of the rent money on to the shareholders.

Since their stock is traded on an exchange, the price fluctuates from day to day.  It's these price fluctuations that I run technical trades on... 100 shares in... 100 shares out... In... Out... In... Out.

If I'm right on the technical indicator... I surf the stock wave and make money.

If I'm wrong?  I become part landlord for commercial property and sit back and collect my rent check on the 15th of every month.

That's part one.

Part two:

This part is the income and surf profits.

We'll call this my second beach shovel.

Now, since I ladder my shares... The idea is that now I have these 100 share trades combined with my holds producing monthly income for me... Either in the form of active trading, OR in the form of rental income...

I take that rental income and active surf trade income... and reinvest it.

But, I don't reinvest it back into Realty Income Corp.

Since, there is always the possibility that Realty Income Corp would be entirely wiped out by Amazon... The only competition that any one in business has to worry about these days...

Basically, the shovel could break on me... I'll be using that money to build a second sand shovel.

The second shovel is a different type of trade, in fact, it's not a trade... It's a buy and hold, forever.

So, the money coming in off Realty Income Corp all gets shoveled into dividend paying stocks.  Basically, I'm just going down the list... there are about 800 or so stocks that have been increasing their dividends for longer than 5 consecutive years.

I start with the longest dividend increase streak... American States Water... and then work my way down the list.  I buy 100 shares in the first one... Then go on to the second one... Buy 100 shares in the second one... Then go to the third.

Every time I shovel enough money off Reality Income Corp to buy 100 shares in another company... I reinvest the cash.

I never touch my original capital.  That money just keeps getting dipped in and out and in and out of Realty Income Corp...

Now... Once the money goes into the dividend paying stocks... I buy 100 shares, no more, no less... Of dividend paying companies... THAT dividend income from THOSE diversified holdings...

Is my surf salary.

Obviously, I have to pay taxes first... But after that... That's money I can spend.

Off to vacation in some far away island?

Not so much.

Possibly one day, yes... But right now?  I'm using that money to live.

Basically, most months, I spend more money than I make at my day job.  It's a non-profit I work for... So... I don't get paid very well.

So, I've been using this extra money to basically cover my living costs that my paycheck doesn't cut.

Most people just get a second job somewhere... Part time in retail, or bar tend... I've got dividends.

It will be interesting to watch it play out... But basically depending on how many companies Amazon puts out of business... I'll just keep that trading/investing model.

Active trade Realty Income Corp... Hold my mistakes and collect rent when the stock price goes down, and cash out on my winnings when the stock price goes up.  Then put those profits into an ever expanding diversified portfolio of dividend paying stocks.

Once that portfolio has generated a hearty dividend income paycheck... I'll possibly use some of that money to get into riskier stocks that don't pay a dividend but may be going up in value... This is my third shovel...

Part 3:

Part 3 is to take any of the income that comes off the second layer of dividend stocks, that I don't use... Any unused income coming off the diversified dividend layer, can be either spent as discretionary income... Or reinvested into a third shovel.

So, the sand from Realty Income Corp trades and rent checks is shoveled into dividend stocks... The sand coming off dividend stocks can then be shoveled into bills, or, reinvested into a third layer...

Growth stocks.

So, if you go on a website called Bar Chart...

You can find the all-time high stocks.

This third shovel is stocks that are much riskier.  Again, the 100 share buy and holds start again.

Any income or profits that come off this sand shovel go to be spent... These profits are luxury profits... These are the ones where you bought Netflix day one and made 40 thousand percent.... You gambled on that new idea.

This is where my international travel income comes from... New music equipment...  A hot tub... New car.

Etc. etc.

But let's say I don't want to buy anything or travel?

Is there a 5th shovel?  Yes.

The 5th shovel is private equity.  This is money where I have a friend who has some hot new idea... Some start up... Or wants to start their own business... It's the most risky type of investment.

It's not very liquid as in you can't sell shares on an exchange... Lawyers need to be involved... You could get screwed out of the entire investment.

This is why it's sand from the 5th shovel.

Because if I have 5 people in a row shoveling sand to the next person down the line... If the last person gets their sand castle washed away by a wave... All I have to do is wait long enough and that sand bucket will eventually fill back up.

If you just go right into giving all your money to some random idea... You get burned.

The idea is adding layers of risk protection and layers of income generation... If any one thing breaks... You're diversified enough to start again.

I suppose the very first shovel could actually be the 9-5 job, or your initial savings or trade capital.

My goal in all of this isn't so much to completely replace my 9-5 salary.... It's more to give me a security blanket.

Companies and organizations go out of business... People get canned... One of the biggest fears that most people have is having their source of income cut.

It's a scary prospect.... Causes stress....

But if you're banking your salary and it's all discretionary income that you spend on leisure... And it can be matched by a diversified source that regenerates on its own...

Stress goes out the window because you no longer really care what happens to that salary.  If you get fired... Who cares... All your bills are paid for.  You could sleep all day and you still get paid.

That's the idea.  To work just because working is something to keep you busy... Not to stay up late at night wondering if you'll be able to afford life in general.

So, that's my surf salary.

Shovel sand... Use the shovels to buy more shovels... Use those shovels to buy more shovels... Use those shovels to buy an exponentially increasing number of shovels.

If a shovel or two breaks, or gets carried out by the tide... Who cares.  I've got so many shovels I don't even know what to do with them all.


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You know what I find annoying?  When people basically complain about their significant other.  My thing is, you have a significant other, be happy that you have someone.  I've got nothing.  And pretty much every date I go on ends on her saying "I'll call you".

And then on the follow up text... She basically says "When I said I would call you, I mean, I don't really want to call you... Like in the movie Mean Girls when she compliments someone, it means, she doesn't actually like it."

And I'm just like... "Oh, okay."

And she's like "It was nice talking to you... And when I say it was nice talking to you... I mean, watch the movie Mean Girls."

So, if someone actually HAS a significant other... They should be very grateful as far as I'm concerned.  They should be happy that someone actually has enough interest to let them even be with them!

I just find it annoying that they are anything but happy.

I mean, I would LOVE to even just have a girlfriend... Or even just be seeing someone.  I can't even get beyond a first date.  I'd love to have anyone just even look in my direction.

I can't even get that.

So, I just hate it when people aren't anything but loving and caring to the person they are with.  That other person doesn't have to be with the person.  No one has to be with anyone, everyone could just be single... So they choose to be with someone... And that's why anyone who is in a relationship, or married, should consider themselves lucky that the person wanted to be with them.

That's my view.  It's a privilege that someone decides to be with someone else not a right.

Otherwise, just be single instead then... Don't be with someone just to be with someone... Be with someone because you feel lucky being with that person.... you feel honored that they want you.  Out of ALL the people on this planet, you're the one that they are with!  That's amazing when you think about it.  That person decided to be with you.  Billions of people... And it's YOU they are with.

NO complaining allowed.  At all.  That's my view on it.  Don't take anyone for granted... People choose to be in one another's lives and it should be an honor that the person chose to allow you to be not just an acquaintance, not just a friend, but a significant other.  That should be cherished because it's SUPER special.

People can have a lot of friends... But they can only have one significant other in their lives.  It should be an honor.

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So Many First Dates

I've pretty much just come to accept that there's always only going to be just a first date.  I mean, eh, it's fine.  The thing is... At least it's good conversation usually, and it's cheap, usually just a cup of coffee, or a drink.

I mean, all of my peers are coughing up mucho money for childcare and wedding costs...

So, if I just go on a date a week and it's always a first date, and she decides not to respond anymore after the first date...

I guess it is what it is.

I really should just go for the Guinness book of world records for first dates.  I'm actually fairly certain I've surpassed that record.

I've been on a LOT of first dates.

I used to wonder what it was they weren't interested in or what I could do better... But I suppose it doesn't really matter.  I mean, what one person likes, another doesn't.  Or what is a preference to one person, isn't to another.

So it doesn't matter really I guess.

At this point I'm not really expecting to meet someone.  I just go on dates usually because it's nice to have an hour conversation with someone over a drink.

I've kind of given up on the whole love thing at the point.  I feel like whatever it is that women REALLY want in the end, I don't have.  Maybe it's my height, or maybe it's just my lack of a CEO position at a big corporation... Who knows... But whatever it is, I don't have it.

So, just keep going on first dates.... and then after the first date... I basically say the same thing...

"I had a great time, I'd love to go on another date, but I'll let it up to you, if you decide you want to do something again, you can contact me, if not, that's okay too, it was nice to meet you."

I'm actually surprised that I don't run into more of these first dates I've been on in real life.  You'd think I would cross paths with at least one or two of them every now and then.  I never seem to though.  Which is kind of weird.

I guess it just proves how many people there are out there!  And maybe hope that one day I will eventually cross paths with someone who I will end up marrying?  I guess one can hope.

The thing is... You never know who you'll end up marrying until it happens.  Plus, the person that I might end up with, she might be in a totally different country right now, or state, or city.

I mean, who knows, she might be married right now for all I know.

I actually went on a date with one woman I was interested in... I REALLY wanted to go on a second date... But she wasn't interested in.  Which was weird because she actually bought my tea for me on the date... And then she ended it with "I'll call you later".

She was never going to call later.

I finally texted and she said she wasn't interested.

It was a good 2 hours though that we chatted.

Anyways, she actually lived like a mile away from where I live now, for a few years, married to the other guy that she ended up getting divorced from.

So, I guess it just goes to show, the woman I might eventually end up with, could be nextdoor the whole time.

Or who knows, she might just live right down the street.  Maybe I already know her even and sparks just haven't flown yet.

Life is a little about catching one another's paces.  That's why a lot of couples early on break up.

People just go in different directions.  Two people could be together and one goes on to do a PHD, and the other just decides not to even go to college at all.  Then the PHD student ends up getting really cozy with a classmate... And sparks fly.  They break up with their previous relationship and end up with the other person.

It happens all the time.

This is why I kind of have decided not to really put much faith into the dating apps anymore.  It's a nice hour or two chat, but I have no hope that I'll actually meet my future significant other on that site.

I feel like I have a better chance if I just keep with social activities.  Just keep making friends.  I think the key is to make a LOT of friends.  Then you get invited to things, like parties, or other weddings... You're more likely to form a close bond with someone else who is single at a wedding... All the single people at weddings kind of gather together, and then they just kind of think, "when is it my turn?"

And then you end up kind of cozying up with other single people and perhaps something happens from that.  Maybe not... but I think it's better odds than just meeting someone random.

People like to date friends.  They don't like to date random strangers.  People like to know there's a connection somehow.  Connections prove reputation and decency... Which is a big deal for dating.

That's the problem with dating sites... Like the last date I went on she was like "You're not going to murder me are you?"

That's the whole problem with online dating.  There's no trust.  You don't know the person.

That's why most relationships don't come out of dating sites.  They come out of knowing the person.  Mutual friends at a party... Or, the singles table at a wedding...

"How do you know so and so?"

I think eventually I just want to keep doing more things that involve group activities.  Running club is good... So that works for now, but I need more group activity things.  And it has to be recurring.  This is how coworkers date, or classmates.

You see the person over and over again.  And then eventually something clicks.  Although I have no clue how that click part happens... But somehow it does.

But yeah... The key to relationships is being around the person, on a recurring basis... Then becoming friends first... Then ended up in a relationship.

I know with the summer camp in Maine that I go to every June the way that people end up together is, they spend a LOT of time in close space... And then... They drink alcohol together.

Lots of time spent together often... Plus alcohol.

The time together often is what makes the close bond, but the alcohol is what makes things happen because then people who may not have otherwise kissed... End up making out.

And then it goes on to end up in marriage eventually.

There have been SOOOO many camp marriages, it's crazy.

Spend time with people often, drink.

That's running club.  You see the same people every week, you run together... then... You guessed it... You drink.

Coworkers... Happy hours once a week?

See a pattern?

It's because you have to build up the trust first.... Then lower the inhibitions.

Most people don't find anyone attractive the first time they meet.

This is why I'm endlessly going on first dates... I like to give it 3 dates before I call it quits... But that's just me.

Anyways... So, I'll keep with the dates thing from online dating, but I doubt it will ever lead anywhere because the formula for love isn't built into online dating.

There's no trust building.  There's no community to vouch for this person.

You just talk a while, then go get booze.

Which is always going to end in failure.  Because alcohol without the community and trust... Just ends in both people awkwardly saying good night and then both of them never speaking again.

It's just how it goes.  Alcohol can't come until there's trust and friendship and community.  THEN you can add alcohol into the mix to get two people who may kind of sort of like one another but haven't yet let it bubble up and say anything, will say something after a couple drinks.

It's just the way of the world and the way so many couples have gotten together.

Don't believe me?  Ask pretty much anyone you know who is married.  Ask them how they got together.

They knew one another for a while probably... Then went out to a happy hour, or a wedding, or a party, or something where they had a couple of drinks... And then they warmed up to each other.

So, that's what I need to work on... Finding more friends, attending more parties, happy hours with coworkers, and weddings...

Only then will I probably meet her.

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Kentucky Plates

So tonight, I went on another first date with someone from OKCupid... I mean, she was cool, I don't think I'm her type, but that's okay.  She was nice for sure.  We chatted for a while.  We went to Barnes and Noble and got tea... And then... There were no seats in the cafe area, so... We walked around and there were no seats ANYWHERE in Barnes and Noble... So THEN... We ended up sitting in the kids area next to the toy train and kids books.


That was the ONLY place in the whole store to sit.

We talked for an hour sitting there.  Haha... It was actually just funny guess.  I mean, I don't think there will be a second date.  But sometimes you just gotta laugh at the things that happen in life.  I never would have thought I'd be sitting in the kids area sipping tea on a first date.  It was late, we got there around 9 or so, a little before 9, and they closed at 10... so there was no one else in the area.  It was totally awkward and weird... And the people who worked there totally gave us the the stink eye.

I guess now I can say I've gone on a first date in the kids section of Barnes and Noble.

Did you know they have a Grump Cat children's book?  Yep.

Anyways so I leave the date, and I'm driving home, and I need to get gas, so I go to Wawa...

Then I end up at a light and there's a car, kind of similar to mine but not really, it's a Nissan or something, and the car has Kentucky plates...  The driver isn't turning even though the green arrow is up.  I'm just like, well they probably are looking on their phone and not sure where they are going.

So eventually they turn, and I turn.  They kind of pull ahead of me... I'm just like, I wonder where they are driving to and all that.  They're definitely a long way from home!

Well, then a few miles down the road on the next turn, there's a whole bunch of commotion as police cars are blaring their lights going somewhere to some emergency.


Anyway, I pull into the Wawa and get out of my car and start the whole process of getting gas.

Then all of a sudden there's a person asking me if I have something to click her lock.  I'm like "What?" and she's like... "I locked my keys in my car, but the window is just open enough that she could stick a coat hanger through and click the lock inside to open the door".

I start looking for something that I might have in my car so she can open her car door.

I look a little, I don't have anything, she goes inside and comes back with something that works perfectly.  Then I finish getting gas and I say it's been a weird night, that I just spent an hour in the kids section of Barnes and Nobel on an awkward first date... that wasn't THAT awkward but, it was weird to sit in the kids section, but how it was the only place to sit in the entire bookstore, then how I passed a whole bunch of police... And she was like, "Oh yeah, I saw that".

I then looked at her car and was like... Wait, and then I looked at the license plate and was just like, "You were in front of me like 4 lights back!"

And she was like... Yep.

I was going to chat more and be like where ya headed, since I was curious, but I didn't want to be weird/creepy.

She seemed nice though.

Anyway, so then I basically finished putting gas in my car and went on my way, and she went on hers.  Or, I 'm guessing she went on hers.  She was getting gas as I drove off.

That's scary though to lock your keys in your car!  That must have been the worst feeling ever for her.  I was like "It's a good thing you left your window open enough like that!"

She was just like "Yeah..."

I wanted to be more hospitable and be like you know, "Welcome to PA, anything else I can help with?"

It's always nice to know people are helpful when you are far from home.  I've broken down a few times, or been in situations and not been close to home... It's the worst.

I kind of just wish that it were easier to trust people.  Like, to know that people were there to help you and not take advantage of you.

I wish I could get on some list of "approved strangers".

Like, some app where you can just look people up on it and know they aren't malicious or out to hurt you.

So then someone can be like... "What's your decent person ID number?"

And I'd be like... "1335338892023747540337272048737303039574."

And they would be like... "Okay, let me look you up."

And then I wait.

"Oh yeah, look at that!  You're a 5 star rated decent person."

And I'm just like... "Sure am."

And then they are just like... "Well since I know you're not a psycho who's going to kill me now... I actually do need help with something."

And then there ya go.

That's the problem with the world... You never know if someone is actually a decent person, or a psycho killer.

Especially when traveling.  I mean, when you know people and you've been friends... You kind of know they are decent... But when someone is a stranger... You never know!

I feel like we need to think of a way to know who is trustworthy.  So that way you don't have to worry when you talk to a stranger.  You just pull up your good peoples app and then it shows you people nearby who are trusted strangers.

Like, the app tracks GPS distance and so then if you're traveling you pull up the app and it shows you that there's a decent person within a half a mile.  So you can just click and message that person and ask for a favor.

Or something.

Well, I hope Kentucky plates gets to where she's going without any further mishaps.  I feel like locking your keys in your car at a gas station when you're that far away from home has to be such a scary feeling.  Luckily though she was able to click the lock through the small sliver of open window and open her door back up!

Anyways... It was a weird night.  Now I'm home, making a late dinner.

Oh, I did pick up a book called "Big Magic".  It's by the woman that wrote Eat Pray Love... Apparently it's a really good book.  That's what I was told.  I was told to read it.  I was going to download the digital copy, but that was like 12 bucks... Then I saw it in the store tonight for 8 bucks.  The physical copy was 8 bucks when the e-book copy was like 12 or 14 bucks or whatever?  So, I bought the physical copy for 8 bucks.  I haven't bought a physical book in years.  It was fun to buy a real book!  It's even hardcover.  Crazy, I know.

Maybe I'll read it in a coffee shop.  It's kind of cool, to read a real book.  I don't know, there's something neat about it.  Maybe instead of only doing E-books I'll just buy a real physical book every once in a while.  I still don't get why it's so much cheaper for the real book, in hardcover at that, than the digital copy... I'm just excited to read the book though, apparently it's supposed to be really good.

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Beet Juice, Beet Juice, Beet Juice

Beet juice... Unlike Beetlejuice, an obnoxious fictional ghost hired to chase the living from a previous owner's abode, I've been trying out adding beet juice to my day.  If you say it three times fast, nothing happens, but if you drink it fast?  You feel pretty pleasant, despite the strange taste.

I'm always trying out different juices.  I still blend up a smoothie every now and then, but I also like to try out juices from the store.  The last one I tried was carrot juice.  Apparently if you drink too much of it, you'll start to look like an Oompaloompa.  That would be strange to explain to everyone!

Beet juice doesn't have that effect and doesn't make you look like a beet.

Anyways, apparently it's just super healthy for you.  If you Google the benefits of beet root juice, you get a lot of results.

I found this glass jar of juice in the organic section of my local grocery store.  They make both carrot and beet.  So, maybe I'll alternate between the two.  Buy one and when I finish that buy the other.

I mix it with my morning orange juice so it's more drinkable.  Carrot juice isn't bad though, but beet juice is a rough one to drink.  It's very "earthy" tasting.  Mix it with some orange juice and then use a straw, it's not so bad.

Here's to beet juice benefits!  Apparently as well, it can give you more endurance when working out.  So, maybe I'll try drinking a little before working out.

The thing about it though is, it's potent.  I'm not entirely sure but I THINK it's a diuretic, and also it apparently lowers blood pressure.  SO if you have preexisting conditions... Definitely check with the doctor first.  I'm only drinking a small amount mixed in my morning OJ, like a half a cup, so I'm not really overloading on the effects.

I like doing new and interesting heathy things... I suppose even if the effect is purely placebo, it still makes me feel like I'm doing something good for my body, and in turn I just feel better in general.  Obviously, it's ideal to actually do something actually good for your body.  But as well, the whole idea of just feeling like you are doing something then makes your mood better and in turn it can actually make you feel better because you feel good in general, which, there's some science that says your physical health can actually mimic your mental health.  How all that works though?  I don't know, it beets me.

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Run Disney

So one of my friends recently went to run a 5K at Disney World.  I was seeing all her photos posted and it looks really cool/fun.  She said she goes every year.

I looked up the website and there's a WHOLE BUNCH of runs.  They have one called the Heroes run out in Disneyland.  I think maybe I might try that one out next year.  I have friends in LA, so I could just stay with them and rent a car.  Although I might do the whole stay in a hotel nearby type of thing.

It's something I definitely think would be a good time.  My one friend said I could tag along to the one at Disney World... Which, I'm not 100 percent opposed to...

But, I think it would be cooler to head back to California!  I haven't been in a while, and given that Disneyland is old stomping grounds for my mom and my grandparents and brother and sister... It just has more meaning than Disney World.  Although I did go to Disney World once with my mom and on the Disney cruise.  But Cali is just in my blood since that's where I was born and grew up as a little kid.

Who knows, I might run a few of them.

Here's the official site for the run I want to do:

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